Married Now

Long story short, we had an affair for a couple years that resulted in me getting pregnant. He left soon after and never looked back. We finally got married a few years ago. There is no such thing as happily every after because marriage and relationships are very tough. I do love him very much and I don't take it for granted that I can easily be on the other end. I've learned men will tell you what you want to hear if you allow it, stick up for yourself, love yourself first, and tell him what you really mean even though they prefer sunshine to be blown up their @ss.
AgainstTheOdds AgainstTheOdds
36-40, F
4 Responses Jun 12, 2012

Thank you for sharing your story. I am 8 months post separation with my mm; we had an affair for a little over a year and one half. We seem in a constant state now of ebb and flow. His soon to be ex is very driven by anger and is creating a lot of drama. My bf does not deal well with this sort of thing and always shuts me out for a period of time when she has one of her outbursts. I feel like this is a bit unfair for me as I feel like somewhat of a scapegoat. It is, admittedly, a very stressful time in our relationship and I am wondering if we shouldn't just take a break until the dust settles or break up altogether. We still love each other and are sincere about trying to move forward, but at times I wonder just how long that is going to take. I appreciate you sharing your story.

Curious if looking back you both feel like the challenges were worth it to get to where you are now? I called it quits with my Mm because he is confused over what he needs to do, just wonder if I should be glad I saved myself the trouble or hope he decides he really does want to be with me...

Sounds like you and I have learned the same lessons. I too married my mm.

Sounds like you learned a lot.