I Am The Other Woman
hi,
Almost 2 years ago I fell in love with a coworker who's 10 years older than me and like no other man I've ever met. he used to be everything I ever wanted in a man. EVERYTHING. he has 2 kids with two different mothers. he's very attractive. after about a year and a half of being in an unofficial relationship with no title or definition, a female friend of his started harassing him, sending emails, stalking, coming to our place of work and threatening him. She even went so far as to ram her car into his while following us when we were getting off work.I got tired of listening to him tell me about her harassing emails and I wanted to see for myself. So I read his emails and found out that not only was he involved with that woman, he had recently gotten engaged to his youngest child's mother and she had moved in with him. That was what set the harassing woman off (even though he denied ever being with her). There were so many emails about the life they'd planned together and their wedding plans and just the details of their relationship that I never even knew existed. I was devastated and extremely heartbroken. After trying to avoid him at work, I confronted him about being engaged. he told me everything and said that he loved me and told me that he wanted to get married because of this image that he has to uphold (he's a minister) and he wants his son to have married parents. But he kept saying that he really loves me a lot and he hoped that one day we'd be together. I got so confused. It was also a devastating time in my life and I didnt want to be alone. So I continued to read the emails everyday, torturing myself with all the intimate details of their relationship. I stopped sleeping with him but I kept seeing him. Then I stopped talking to him completely unless it was work related because I read they were trying to have another baby. He got extremely emotional after that and it started affecting my work. he was interrupting me while I was with my students with his apologies and his desperation for me to talk to him. I gave in and we had one beautiful night of passion that I'd never felt with anyone. Complete ECSTASY!!! afterwards we started seeing each other again and he said that he wasnt sure if he was gonna go through with the wedding. (Meanwhile this other woman is still stalking and harassing him, his wife, our boss and ME. Yes this woman was crazy) The wedding date was getting closer and closer and i continued to see more and more emails about wedding plans but also their daily arguments and how unhappy they both seemed. It seemed that the closer the wedding date got, the more affectionate he was toward me. I ended up spending the entire day and night before his wedding with him (even went to his bachelor party and spent the night with him in a hotel<---Feel really bad about this). The next day he got married at 5pm and he took 2 days off from work and came back like nothing ever happened. We continued to see each other. Its been 3 months since the wedding. Since then we've been going strong. He calls me his "girlfriend" which he never did when were seeing each other before he got married. When we make love its amazing and we both enjoy each other more than on a physical level. But I feel like crap EVERY SINGLE DAY. I feel like... How could this happen to me? The man that I love got married to another woman as if I didnt exist but claims to love me overwhelmingly. (and i believe it because I feel it when I'm with him.) But HE'S MARRIED and I cant ignore that he has a wife. He says he wants to be with me. But I dont even think I want that if he can do this to me and to his wife. But I love him more than any man in the world. I dont know what to do.
Almost 2 years ago I fell in love with a coworker who's 10 years older than me and like no other man I've ever met. he used to be everything I ever wanted in a man. EVERYTHING. he has 2 kids with two different mothers. he's very attractive. after about a year and a half of being in an unofficial relationship with no title or definition, a female friend of his started harassing him, sending emails, stalking, coming to our place of work and threatening him. She even went so far as to ram her car into his while following us when we were getting off work.I got tired of listening to him tell me about her harassing emails and I wanted to see for myself. So I read his emails and found out that not only was he involved with that woman, he had recently gotten engaged to his youngest child's mother and she had moved in with him. That was what set the harassing woman off (even though he denied ever being with her). There were so many emails about the life they'd planned together and their wedding plans and just the details of their relationship that I never even knew existed. I was devastated and extremely heartbroken. After trying to avoid him at work, I confronted him about being engaged. he told me everything and said that he loved me and told me that he wanted to get married because of this image that he has to uphold (he's a minister) and he wants his son to have married parents. But he kept saying that he really loves me a lot and he hoped that one day we'd be together. I got so confused. It was also a devastating time in my life and I didnt want to be alone. So I continued to read the emails everyday, torturing myself with all the intimate details of their relationship. I stopped sleeping with him but I kept seeing him. Then I stopped talking to him completely unless it was work related because I read they were trying to have another baby. He got extremely emotional after that and it started affecting my work. he was interrupting me while I was with my students with his apologies and his desperation for me to talk to him. I gave in and we had one beautiful night of passion that I'd never felt with anyone. Complete ECSTASY!!! afterwards we started seeing each other again and he said that he wasnt sure if he was gonna go through with the wedding. (Meanwhile this other woman is still stalking and harassing him, his wife, our boss and ME. Yes this woman was crazy) The wedding date was getting closer and closer and i continued to see more and more emails about wedding plans but also their daily arguments and how unhappy they both seemed. It seemed that the closer the wedding date got, the more affectionate he was toward me. I ended up spending the entire day and night before his wedding with him (even went to his bachelor party and spent the night with him in a hotel<---Feel really bad about this). The next day he got married at 5pm and he took 2 days off from work and came back like nothing ever happened. We continued to see each other. Its been 3 months since the wedding. Since then we've been going strong. He calls me his "girlfriend" which he never did when were seeing each other before he got married. When we make love its amazing and we both enjoy each other more than on a physical level. But I feel like crap EVERY SINGLE DAY. I feel like... How could this happen to me? The man that I love got married to another woman as if I didnt exist but claims to love me overwhelmingly. (and i believe it because I feel it when I'm with him.) But HE'S MARRIED and I cant ignore that he has a wife. He says he wants to be with me. But I dont even think I want that if he can do this to me and to his wife. But I love him more than any man in the world. I dont know what to do.
By:
kaceey
Age:
22-25
,
Female
