Feels Good To Be The Other Woman

Ive been cheated on in the past. But im seeing this married guy. We have our little fling and we go on about our business. But i cant stop thinking about him. Im not married but in a relationship with someone else that is not too serious. Im confused and can't help how I feel
heartbreak12 heartbreak12
36-40, F
2 Responses Aug 17, 2012

I am not in the same boat exactly. I don't get to spend much time with the MM that I am in a realtionship with. There has not been any sex and we keep each other at bay pretty much. At first we took lots of risks to see each other and then his wife found out that we had been talking and went totally nuts. I said let's stop and he said no that we are friends and she can't keep him from talking to a friend. We used to talk on the phone, not a lot, but on a regular basis. Now we text more than talk. Oh well. He is actually more....open with his affections in our text messages. I have told him that I can not come between him and his wife so it's not that I am after him or that he thinks I am going to leave my home for him. But the connection is there and neither of us really know what to do with it so we keep in touch and he makes my day when I get to talk to him and I'm sure that it is the same with him. As with hispartnerincrime the big question is where are we going. After we have thrown out where we are not going there aren't too many choices left...so we live in the minute as it comes.

I am in the same boat. My married guy is very passionate, concerned for my feelings and well being, and for lack of a better term extremely infatuated with me. We spend a lot of time together and it doesnt all revolve around sex... There is an emotional bond. We consider ourselves to be in a relationship, but he is married... Unwilling to leave not because of the wife but because of his 3 young sons (for reasons related to his own fatherless upbringing). I know it will probably never be anything more, but a combination of making him happy and being happy myself makes me not want to stay away. I agree with you that it is very confusing. I am apprehensive about being hurt in the end yet at the same time I am very much enjoying the ride. That seems to be the only downside of the situation - the uncertainty of what lies ahead.