If You Are Forcing Your Husband To Stay... Then You Kinda Get What You GetFirst let me start off by saying that I do NOT condone cheating. But I honestly feel like some women kind of get what they get. I was the other woman.
The first time he tried to leave (way before he met me) his wife used his kids against him. Told his children that he abandoned them and didn't love them. Any contact he tried to make she disregarded. So after a week of hell... he moved back. At the time he felt like this was the only choice. So for the next 3 years he cheated on her but only after he tried to do the right thing first.
I came into the picture a couple years ago while they were still married. When I first met him I had heard from others how bad his marriage was. I had no intentions of getting involved but things happen and sometimes I think things happen for a reason. He separated from her and experienced the same hell as before. It has taken him over a year to even remotely repair the damage that she has caused to their children.
He and I are now engaged and you could not meet a more perfect couple. We spend time together every evening just holding and talking to each other. It was so hard in the beginning being the other woman and always wondering if it would amount to anything if you're just caught up in lies. There were times when i wanted to leave. I would have overwhelming feelings of guilt but he would reassure me that I did not break up his marriage. I finally believe that. When a man tries to leave I don't blame a person for trying to get them to stay... but when you FORCE someone to stay with you, then what are you really getting?