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Can I Be a "Fluff" Friend?

After a six month thing, I met her as his friend from work.  She loves me and I quote, "You are one of the most trustworthy people I have encountered in a long time." (Sorry. But I love irony.)  Anyway, she has no clue.  Can I still talk with her on the fluff subjects and maintain a friendship?

trustworthy4416 trustworthy4416 22-25, F 4 Responses Jul 31, 2008

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she'll find out eventually. just back off and focus on you.

Not only have I met the other woman, I have had her and the kids here at my house for holidays! I tried to be her friend before I allowed my relationship with her husband to become anything anymore than friendship. I tried to avoid falling head over heels for someone elses husband to no avail. She shunned every attempt the two of us made to include her in what was at the time a good friendship. She has been rude to me in my own home. She now, realizing she is in grave danger of losing her husband, suddenly wants to be my friend. I really don't want to be her friend now. I want her husband and have reason to believe that we will end up together so I feel like agreeing to be her friend now would add insult to injury when the truth comes out. Still there are moments when I feel I should try as it would gain us some additional time together. it would also more than likely expedite things as Anyone who sees us together for any length of time has recognized our feelings for each other. Good Luck, what ever you decide!

i think you should back off

It's like playing with fire i think. I'd be terrifed to meet the other woman.

I know that I would feel incredibly awkward if I got to know his wife. I like living in my own universe as the OW. You are bound to discover things that make you go "Hmmm..." if you go this route.