ClicheI'd appreciate some advice please of what to do. I guess I can expect and deserve some judgement too.
I have been having an affair for a year now, he is married with 3 young kids. He no longer loves or fancies his wife, they argue, etc.
We are head over heels in love. Neither of us has ever felt this way before, we are each other's best friends and simulated. If he did not have children he says we would be together and I believe him. I know it sounds cliche but I do think sometimes,you marry young, to meet expectations, never knowing the love of your life is out there. I don't question how much he loves me but after a year, I have to wonder what is next.
I've told him I'd love us to be together. We have talked marriage and babies. We talk about breaking up, we talk about how we could be together. He is in turmoil over the children. He wants them and me. Not possible. I'm finding it hard and would like him to make a decision but he can't and needs more time. He says he is broken hearted either way.
We see each other and speak several times a day. I tried to instigate some space last week but he cracked in less than 24 hours. We are best friends and a wonderful team, I just don't know what to do next. I've always been here, constant. He keeps me in limbo.
If I didn't hate myself so much, it'd be either a very happy or very sad love story.
Has anyone been in a similar situation? All the stories I read,the guy seems to be a serial cheat or the relationship seems different. Maybe we all feel like that, to alleviate the guilt.
Would appreciate people's experience please. I hope for a happy ending for all of us, and you.
bermondsey 26-30 4 Responses 1 Jan 21, 2013