Becoming THE Woman

I have been the other woman for 13 months. I didn't think (and neither did he) that this would turn into anything more than a release of tensions that built up over time... but it did very quickly. We fell in love. This isn't my first time in a relationship with a MM, so I'm not oblivious to the truth of these types of relationships--they don't leave their wives. My relationship with this MM is very different though. He is leaving his wife, but it is a nightmare. Sometimes I wonder if it is worth it. I'm in love with him and he is with me, but there is so much to go through just to get to the type of relationship I want to have with him. I'm so tired of waiting. I'm so tired of the drama and the secrets and the sneaking around. It frustrates and upsets me. At the same time, I know that these things take time... and there are children involved on both sides, so they have to be the first priority. I'm just frustrated and annoyed with all of the craziness from his future ex, and I don't want to complain to him about it.

I am very excited for their time to end, so he and I can start our relationship. I need to be patient and understanding... I am not enjoying this at all though. I miss the happiness we had before all the chaos began with the future ex.
Brokenglass4 Brokenglass4
36-40, F
2 Responses Feb 11, 2013

I wish you all the best during the transitional and tough time. Please be strong and very, very patient. This will be a really tough time for both of you and you need to give everyone all the time and space that they need. I was in a similar situation, my MM left his marriage a year and a half into our affair. Their marriage would have ended regardless of me, but it still caused us both a tremendous amount of drama and feelings of guilt. Be especially careful if he has kids. I am happy for you both and hope that things work out the way you want them to. Be as supportive as you can and continue to focus on yourself and a life independent of him!

How dare you prey on a married man? Not the first time either! Guess what honey, if he'll do it WITH you hell do it TO you. Or you'll do it to him. Chances are, this cozy life you're envisioning will not come to pass. Karma's a *****, and what goes around, comes around.