I Am The Other Woman
I don't know who else to turn to. I need someone to talk to that understands and without judgement. I've been involved with a mm for a little over a year now. I feel like SUCH a hypocrite because I swore I would never do this. My husband left me for another woman years ago, we've been apart for 9 yrs, no kids so no reason to keep in contact. After the pain and betrayal I went through with that, I swore swore swore I would never do that to another woman.
He's the only mm I've been involved with who did not lie to me about being married. I've dated a few guys in the past who were and tried to hide it from me. I didn't work for very long and when I found out I was furious. When we met he said he wasn't in love with his wife anymore, they have absolutely no sex life and he only stays out of obligation to the kid, who is autistic. I believe him because he basically lives his life as if he's single. He comes and goes as he pleases, hangs with friends and no ones ever met her. His closest friends have become my friends. He takes her nowhere. He told her a few months ago that he has a "friend" on the side. Her only concern was what about her and the kid. She doesn't care if he messes around, she just wants to be taken care of. Since then, he's been staying the night with me more and more. He used to always leave before she woke up, now many times it's early afternoon before he heads home.
We've always considered ourselves "friends with benefits". We've recently discovered that we've fallen in love. Like MAJORLY in love. I don't want him to leave his wife and family, he is wrong for me in soooo many ways. I think being in a true relationship with him would make me miserable. I am falling deeper each day, I think he is too. I just don't know what to do! I don't want to be alone forever, nor do I want to live with anyone again. As screwed up as this situation is, it works for both of us. I'm not really looking for advice, I just don't know who else to tell these kinds of things to. My friends and family know I am involved with him, he's become a major part of my life. We text and talk and see each other constantly. I just wanted to express these feelings. Thanks for reading if you've made it this far :)
He's the only mm I've been involved with who did not lie to me about being married. I've dated a few guys in the past who were and tried to hide it from me. I didn't work for very long and when I found out I was furious. When we met he said he wasn't in love with his wife anymore, they have absolutely no sex life and he only stays out of obligation to the kid, who is autistic. I believe him because he basically lives his life as if he's single. He comes and goes as he pleases, hangs with friends and no ones ever met her. His closest friends have become my friends. He takes her nowhere. He told her a few months ago that he has a "friend" on the side. Her only concern was what about her and the kid. She doesn't care if he messes around, she just wants to be taken care of. Since then, he's been staying the night with me more and more. He used to always leave before she woke up, now many times it's early afternoon before he heads home.
We've always considered ourselves "friends with benefits". We've recently discovered that we've fallen in love. Like MAJORLY in love. I don't want him to leave his wife and family, he is wrong for me in soooo many ways. I think being in a true relationship with him would make me miserable. I am falling deeper each day, I think he is too. I just don't know what to do! I don't want to be alone forever, nor do I want to live with anyone again. As screwed up as this situation is, it works for both of us. I'm not really looking for advice, I just don't know who else to tell these kinds of things to. My friends and family know I am involved with him, he's become a major part of my life. We text and talk and see each other constantly. I just wanted to express these feelings. Thanks for reading if you've made it this far :)
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