I was so okay with this situation but it has gotten to the point where I am giving my all to someone who is incapable to give his all back! This has never been something I've stood for- being with a taken man/giving someone a part of me in which they are unable to reciprocate. A little background: The person I am referring to and I have been on and off for 8 years although we broke up in July of last year after an official year and a half. This past June we started speaking again and now we are 'seeing each other', persay, and he has his girl. He tells me this, "a part of me is still really in love with you". But not once have we said "I love you" and those two things are completely different to us, apparently. Now over the weekend, in a less than sober state of mind, I send him a text that said, "I love you only and I am all yours". On account to him not saying that back (which is totally fine) I am realizing that it is unfair for me to put myself into a situation where I am getting hurt and no matter what he is happy all around, he gets two women and doesn't have the decency to end it with one of us? I really hope I am worth losing because quite frankly, he doesn't deserve to have me and he most definitely doesn't deserve the girl he is 'committed' to. I am just so angry right now, I'm sorry if I don't make sense. I am too young to be participating in these sorts of relationships, anyway. The saddest thing is, as angry as I am, I honestly, really do still love him.
Dancedancedance Dancedancedance
18-21, F
1 Response Aug 18, 2014

You totally makes sense. And he definitely needs to choose. You've heard the old saying "you can't have your cake and eat it too".

Of course! I also saw this other quote (it was from another woman's post on this experience) "What I want and what I can have- I am not sure if they're the same thing". I thought it was very eye-opening. Thanks for your response!

Exactly! The first step is identifying what you truly want. If you want to be in a relationship where you're only giving of yourself and not getting a full response in return then that's what you want. If you're not okay with that... then that's not what you truly want. If you want a healthy committed monogamous relationship then seek it out and you'll find it. Don't waste your time anymore with something that's going to hurt you.