I have been in a relationship with a MM fir nearly a year now. He is in a very unhappy verbally abusive marriage but seems very weak. He has one son of seven. I broke off with him in April and that motivated him to move out fir a few days and see a solicitor however as much as he has tried to talk to his wife about separation she refuses and uses avoidance techniques. My mistake was probably continuing to see him over the last few months. He has explained that whilst I am around he doesn't focus in what needs to be done ie I make his life at home bearable. I have now stepped right back and told him not to contact me (day 5) this is very hard but I believe it may be the inky way to get him to make a decision. Has anyone else experienced this and had a positive outcome ? Is no contact the right thing to do ?
Cinders000 Cinders000
56-60, F
3 Responses Aug 19, 2014

You can read my lastest story, I explained this in great detail. I did no contact, and my MM called a few days ago because he's now moving out and filing for divorce. It allows them time to think and space to make decisions.

Where can I find your latest story ?

http://www.experienceproject.com/stories/Am-The-Other-Woman/4716082

If this doesn't work, just go to my profile page and look at my stories. I just wrote this one a few days ago.

I agree with the girls. You are doing the right thing. It is not easy, but you know what you want, and maybe this is what he needs to put a fire under him.

Sounds like with him it is working, and it makes sense that we enable our MM by allowing them to have their cake and eat it too.

One day, I hope I'll be strong enough to do the same. I do believe you don't know what you got til it's gone, and it's only human to take one another for granted.