Back in the saddle, as they say.... New guy and I met for the first time after exchanging some great emails. It was wonderful and he's wonderful. He's smart and successful and VERY sexy. He's in a sexless marriage but has never had an affair before. We're very attracted to each other physically, intellectually, and emotionally.

This one scares me.

I've asked him to take some time and be really sure this is something he wants to do. The first time you cheat it breaks your world. I didn't go looking for him, he found me, but I still feel that I have to warn him that this can be a very intense thing. If we do this, it's not going to be just a distraction or just a hookup.

I just want him to be happy. I don't want to cause him confusion or pain.
CountrySlicker CountrySlicker
56-60, F
1 Response Aug 21, 2014

The first time my man and I were "together" he paused at THAT moment and basically said the same thing. He asked if I was sure, because once this line is crossed there's no going back to the woman I was 'before'.

We "consummated" the relationship today. He was, as predicted, broken...shattered really...but not in the way I expected. He said it was because he hadn't been prepared for me to mean something to him. He is so intense. I love it!