Its Saturday and i got to see him for a couple of minutes, what a treat it was.... but then she wins.
I might have his heart, his mind, his dreams and deaires...but every day she wins.
Its been 9 months now and i have never seen her (other than in a pic). I had the opportunity about 2 weeks ago and i couldnt do it. Just because i know that no matter how much of him i have, how much better i know i am.... She wins.
ariapg ariapg
31-35, F
3 Responses Aug 23, 2014

It must be very hard to think of things this way. I've met my mm's wife a couple of times and it doesn't bother me at all. I don't feel it's any sort of competition between me and her anyway. I look at it as its more about his life with her and the feelings he has about leaving it at this time... I don't think I could handle feeling like I was losing some contest all the time, it would be very hard on the self esteem! 😞

I was thinking the same thing recently. She wins...but what she has is a very loyal, painfully devoted man in a lovelrss, sexless, passionless, trustless marriage. I have his heart, body, passion, the heat in his soul. And neither of us women feel secure with him. We both want more...need more.

I have the same thoughts... She will always win because she got his kids ... :(

My ex is the father of my kids. And he so doesn't win me ;)

I guess because he didn't care so much about his kids ...
My MM does ..

Agree 100%. I wish my MM realizes this too. He is just too afraid to leave because he doesn't want his kids suffer by living with just dad or mom and can't have both ... I don't get it why he would think like that... But all he said is it is complicated and not that simple as i thought ...
Sighz.. :(

That sounds patronizing to's just too complex for your pretty little head. First of all, more than half of all marriages end in divorce. Many of those with children. It's really not all that complicated. The kids still have both parents, you split custody. I'm not saying it's easy on kids. My mom's in her fourth marriage and the stepfather parade wasn't always a bucket of lsughs. But it's not that difficult or unusual either.

Me and my ex split in April. We have a seven year old. We make it clear how much he is loved and work together for his sake. He's fine. Kids are resilient.

What kills me is mine is still staying with her a lot for his kids, says he will sacrifice his happiness for those babies, and they're 18, 20 and 21 years old. All living with mommy and daddy. Not ONE of them has a degree or a car or pays rent.

He left band practice early last night to pick up the 20 year old from work. When I was 20, I didn't want my parents picking me up from anywhere.

His 3 tiny, 6'4", 250 lb babies are going to be the death of us.

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