He said to me on several occasions " you don't love me like you used to". I simply said " you don't call or txt as much" that was last week
So he just admitted that he was starting to fall in love with me & that's why he doesn't txt or call as often...not sure how to take that...
Sidechic79 Sidechic79
36-40, F
5 Responses Aug 28, 2014

Sounds very familiar...that's why I ended my relationship....

Mine started having strong feelings for me and ran........twice.....he ended things because it got too hard for him....
It's funny that they do that.......start having feelings and act like they don't.

That's exactly what happens. I hate to tell you, but I think I'd be more likely to run as SG than as MM.

Why do you hate to tell me that?

I hate to tell you that because you theoretically should have more luck with SG than MM, but SG is more likely to run at signs of commitment than MM.

I think the natural male instinct is to run from commitment. I think the only reason I ever got married is 1 woman kept pursuing me as I was running. I didn't know what I wanted and therefore I didn't want anything. Now I know what I want (my OW) and I need to get past my wife to get there

So he came back??

Came back once. He ended it again and hasn't come back.....just wants to be friends

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I agree, mine did that, he actually started to push me away, but it didn't work because it was too late. I think it might have been love at first sight for us, then when we had sex it is on a whole nother level. I've never felt such an incredible connection to someone before.

Same thing here. It's pushing me away. That's why I went out with SG.

Running scared, I think wakeupdead is right. Xoxo

I feel self-conscious about my username now. I joined this site as an outlet because I hated my wife. Instead it is an outlet to express my undying love for my OW. Thinking about my OW I never want to wake up dead though maybe thats the truth after I tell my wife what's going on.

I think it is natural that once he realizes he is falling in love with you that he will pull back. He knows that loving you will lead to pain so its only natural for him to try to stop his feelings even though his effort will be useless.

I don't even know what to do at this point. Do I pursue him? Do I back off? What goes through a man's mind when he's falling in love?

I would suggest just going steady. Don't pursue if that means increasing contact. Don't decrease contact. Just keep going as you are. If he wants to be with you then he will be most responsive to going steady. If he wants more and you want to give him more then give more. Don't give less just because he pulls back.

Love hearing a man's view!! We been pretty steady. Still spend lunch together everyday. Still have our get aways ( having one tomorrow night ). He just doesn't call or txt like he use to. The only reason I went put with SG was because he was pulling away. If I had of known it was because he was falling on love I would have never even told him about SG

I'm sorry to say men and women make this mistake and then blame it on the other party. I can guarantee I know his motives but it is likely if he's pulling back once you get closer that is because he is scared and does really love you. Once he knows about SG he might pull back hard or go to NC. It all depends on what you think is best for you. Maybe that is good for you, but if you want him then you better pursue him at that point and let him know he is the most important.

And what so you think his motives are?

Excuse the typos! Auto correct is killing me tonight! Lol

I think he is being honest. He doesn't want to contact you as much because he is developing strong feelings for you. Don't worry it wont' work for him ;)

As I always say, it's the least I can do to give back to you guys after all the help you guys give me.

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