Reposting this...

I am posting this letter from a married man again because we do sometimes focus on.."what about me" as the other woman in these relationships. This is his side..written by a man I know who is very much in love with his OW. They are old loves reunited about 6 years ago (he can tell you how long its the minute.. if you were to ask him). They are biding their time, till they can be together...

We cry . . .
We miss you . . .
We think about you . . .
We long to see your face . . .
We miss the sound of your voice . . .
We ache to hold you in our arms again . . .

Yes, we go back to our wives and families after seeing you. We try to explain how it is at home, but the lonliness just does not come across, How can we be lonely with people around. It is pretty easy. I do NOT suggest it though. It is lonelier than being by yourself. You are living with and surrounded by something that is or was a mistake. Is dying. A place you dont want to be, but can't yet get out of.

The darkness is filled with thoughts of you. Memories of what has been, and dreams of what may.

You have a life also, a job, friends, perhaps a family, and other activities. We wonder whether you are enjoying yourself. Wonder whether you are thinking about us. Do those things you do keep you distracted, until we can be together? We hope they do. You should not be sitting around missing us. We dont want that. You should have as full a life as you can, while still being able to be with us.

We spend time dreaming of being with you - like you do us. We dream of the future, things we want to do. Things we want to share.

We worry. Are we providing enough. Enough attention. Enough love. Enough security in the relationship. Enough emotion. Enough connection.

We worry about the other side - our families. What will happen to them. Our children. What will our family, relatives all think about us. Will they speak to us again. How bad will the breakup be. Can I be there for the OW as much as she needs when it all hits the fan. Will I be strong enough. Will it damage us. How will it all affect me/us financially. When can I do this - time the revelation. Will it all be as bad as i fear.

Yes, we agreed to the affair. We stepped in with eyes and heart open.

Not asking for sympathy.

Not looking to be called a cake-eater. That term is offensive to those of us committed to the true love of our life.

We rush to the love you provide.
We agreed to the anxiety.
We suffer from doubts.

We love you.
We love you with abandon.
We love you with all the room our heart has.
We strive to make more room for you - give you total access.

We are not so different - you and I. The MM and the OW.

We are just people trying to find our love, our joy, our passion again

(Just an fyi to any trolls coming around to bash in this thread. You will be deleted faster than you can blink. So..don't bother.)
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4 Responses Apr 19, 2016

My first mm told me that he loved me for over 5 years. he told me he would never abandon me. he said i should move closer to where he lives. i wanted to but then on the day that he was going to tell his wife that he was in love with me everything changed that was two years ago. i still don't know what happened. i have a new mm now and he tells me the exact same things i just realized after i found my old phone. idk if i should ever believe a man again. this has hurt me so bad. i wish i could show u a side by side comparison of my 2 phones. i also wish i had put my story out earlier. my first mm woke me up and for that im grateful. he was the love of my life.

i just need closure. i could move on if i had closure, my love was real.

I think you will be fine .You want closure ,we dont need it .

yes i do need closure he has messed with my head and i want to know why. i believed him when he said he would ever abandon me. he wont take my call. he wont take anybodys call. why is that tell me why. i believed him.

I am not sure ,maybe hes hiding from you .You can and have the power to blow his life out of the water ..He's afraid probably

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Wow I have a friend who suffers with this I understand him more noe

Wow so intense ,and so true .We only know what they tell us .As time goes on we learn more and more . That is it in a nut shell .
Thank you for re posting ..
Yep we have the power to delete the negative ! Love ya KoKO

Aye To you and yours K