Advise?? Boyfriend Wants Abortion.

I have a 2 year old daughter from a previous relationship but have been with my new partner for over 2 years and we have a new
Baby together who is 4 months old.
Iv just found out I am pregnant and he is adamant he wants me to have an abortion!
It was in planned and silly of us really. I want to start my career this year and he says it will hold me back longer.
I know it will be hard but I feel the baby deserves to live! I love my kids
And love being a mum. I mentioned adoption to him but he's having none of it.
He says it's abortion or nothing.
Our relationship is also going through a rocky stage. He says he wants no more kids as he also has
2 from a previous marige. He says I'm stupid to even think of keeping it!
I can't stop crying and he doesn't care how I feel. He hardly wants to hear it.
I don't know what to do.
Iv already got two little ones which the 4 month old is his.
I do everything for them. He does very little. He says I won't cope with another
How can he say that when I do everything for them when he doesn't?
Im so sad about it and he said he doesn't want it and if I keep it he won't look forward to it one bit.
Please help me x
Lydialillie Lydialillie
18-21, F
3 Responses May 23, 2012

I'm so sorry that you are dealing with all of this alone. I hope that you know that the decision is still yours no matter what anyone tells you. You may have to consider the possibility though of having all three children on your own.

I'm so sorry that you are dealing with all of this alone. I hope that you know that the decision is still yours no matter what anyone tells you. You may have to consider the possibility though of having all three children on your own.

I would not advise giving into his selfish demands. Be strong, for you are strong. Lots of women regret having abortions just because their boyfriends wanted it. If you want to pick adoption or keep the child, you can, even if he does not like it. If you want, you can try going to a pregnancy resource center for help, as they handle situations like this a lot. They offer free counseling, adoption options, and financial aid. Lots of people have been in this situation before and have turned out fine. I wish you the best of luck!

Hi thanks for your advise.
I understand what your saying, but he's barely there for our baby now so I know he won't be for this one. Even though I want this baby I don't think I could go through pregnancy alone again and being excited on my own!?
He said he wouldn't even be excited.
Surely if he loved me he would consider my feelings and want to be a proper family with me and his kids. He says I'm stupid for wanting to keep it.
X