Fed Up With No Friends.

I used to have friends, I had a couple of best friends and then a large circle of good friends.  That was when I was in school. Now I'm 19, I dropped out of school when I was about 14 due to depression.  I stayed behind while everyone else got on with their lives. The best friends that I said about, one is engaged to be married and moved out, one is moved out and having a baby and the other likes to travel a lot with her boyfriend.  The rest I hear about are living amazing lives, and I have nothing good, I have never had a proper boyfriend, I have no people to call my friends,  don't socialise with anyone my age, I have no job, no qualifications and I barely leave the flat.  I a fed up.   I want friends.  I want to be confident enough to be who I want to be and make friends that are not judgemental and will not turn on me, laugh at me and leave when it suits them. 
BunnyObsession BunnyObsession
26-30, F
3 Responses Jul 12, 2010

I am 36 and have battled depression for more than 25yrs,I had friends in school as i dropped out myself like u there lives went on .At this point in my life i am married no kids no friends but that is my life maybe a thought is go back to school get your GED and then a community college there should be many people your age or near to make friends with join groups at the school of if you have a community center in your area take a class of interest usually those do not cost much and there would be people of similar interest .Just a thought i am going back to school in the spring and going to take a big turn in my life why because no one make us happy but ourself .we all have the right as a humans to feel we belong on this earth do not rely on others to make you feel better you are alive and look in the mirror and tell yourself you belong and you deserve to be happy and make it happen

Hey...I'm sure you are tired of hearing this; however, you ARE STILL YOUNG. Believe me, I used to think those same things when I was your age. As a matter of fact, I still think those things now. I believe the difference is the following: Everyone wants that perfect marriage and family. <br />
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Your friends are young yet. I thought i was in love twice before I turned 27. looking back on it...i was still learning about myself. Right now, I am focusing on my career and my dogs. I'm moving 1500 miles away next month to do just that.<br />
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Take a week. Take a weekend. ALONE. Rent a cabin or just build a fire in your yard late at night. Think about what YOU are good at. Are u a people person? or do you work better by yourself? I recently got laid off my job in pittsburgh. i had to take 6months and figure out my strengths and negatives in life. I tend to be extroverted, well spoken, a quick thinker, and a kiss ***. My brother, on the other hand, is very shy, works hard, gets the job done before the deadline, and does well because of that. <br />
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Think about who you are...what your passions are. Then do some research and go for them. Screw other people now in your life. once you take control of your life....friends will follow. At least that's what I hope will happen in mine.<br />
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good luck<br />
christin

Hey, chin up, you're till young yet. Looking to the past does you no favours. The might have beens, the could have beens, the time that seems to have slipped away...they don't matter. What matters is right now. You are in control of right now - what you do and how you can be. <br />
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Yes, other people may have taken different paths in their lives, but don't see it as being "left behind" and needing to catch up. This is your own path in life. Take these past years as a learning experience. <br />
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Your story could easily have been my own. It was only after leaving school (last year, at 18) that I burned out. Took out a year, but just couldn't bring myself to do anything. People just thought I was being lazy, when actually I was going through a period of depression which had been threatening for several years. I'm very lucky, because it's only been 1 year of near inactivity and the friends I've known the longest held out for me (no-one knew what was really up I think.)<br />
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"I am fed up. I want friends. I want to be confident enough to be who I want to be" <br />
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Absolutely! You can do it. Whenever you want something to happen, you've gotta have that fighting spirit, however weak you may feel. All actions start with thought. It's rare that growth is a smooth journey - there may be times where you feel things going right and times where you feel like it's all too much - but that's living. <br />
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Start with whatever you feel you can accomplish first. Small steps, as they say.