When anyone else wants help they come to me first and I genuinely do what I can for them. But on the rare occasion I need help I am often let down. Today is the final straw - I'm in hospital next week for a knee replacement and expected to be out next Sunday. My in laws had offered to help me and help hubby (who suffers from mental health problems) with child care while I'm ill and in hospital. But last night they called to say that they won't be around for 2days as another of their sons wants to go out to a comedy club. He wants them to stop over to look after his kids. I am so disappointed as I so rarely need help and do so much for them that I did think I could trust them at this time - well I will be hardened next time they want help . I don't think I can ever forgive them for this. Perhaps their other son can groom their dog, give them lifts and do their shopping. I'm so sad that I feel I want to become a user not a giver I feel though, that I'm being used.