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This Is What Happens When You're Too Nice

My whole life I have been a caregiver.  My older sister got very sick when I was three and shortly thereafter a mentally retarded younger sister was born.  I had to take care of both in various ways (pushing older sister in her wheelchair, taking younger sister with me when I went out to play).  So I guess it seemed pretty normal to me to be always taking care of someone else and not having anyone take care of me very much.  So it went on into adulthood and I always found needy people who I thought I could help out.  When people asked me for money I loaned it to them.  When people needed something like rides or someone to be with them by their hospital beds I was always there. 

The final straw for me has been getting involved with some crazy people who are now trying to ruin me over pedigreed cats I bought from them.  They have brought a lawsuit and it is going to cost 15k to even defend myself.  I haven't done anything wrong.  So where are all the people I helped out in the past?  Gone.  Moved on when I didn't have anything more to offer them.  So basically I am alone.  I finally realize that I was spending all my time and energy and money on others and should have been taking care of myself.  It was a terrible mistake. 

I hope other younger people learn from my lesson that the person you have to take care of first is yourself and that "niceness" is not a virtue.  Not to be mean but to look at why you feel you have to be nice and whether or not the people deserve it.  Oh yeah, I went out of my way to be nice to the people who are now trying to ruin me, buying them expensive gifts and remembering their birthdays, etc. 

No more Ms. Nice Gal here.

usedtobenice usedtobenice 56-60 2 Responses Aug 5, 2009

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You sound like you need to learn to use the upper and lowercase on your keyboard as well as the meaning of punctuation marks. I never asked anyone to "owe me their life" -- sure you are not projecting or feeling a little guilty or maybe otherwise confused about what the topic is?

u SOUND VERY SUPERFICIAL AND LIKE A FAMILY MEMBER OF MINE ? BUT HERE IS THING THOUGH JUST CUS U HELP SOMEONE DONT MEAN THEY OWE U THEIR LIFE ????????????THATS ALL I HAVE TOO SAY ???