Enough of Being the Nice Guy

Since I have opened to others about my relationship issues (see the groups I belong to) I got loads of wonderful support and I could not thank all the EP people enough for making me feel so much better.

One thing that has now started to bother me though, is how often I have been told I am a nice guy. It hasn't happened to me yet on EP, but so many times by friends (girls), therapist, wife... and I do sometimes read it in others post.

OH, I am such a nice guy....

Well than why on earth do I not have a fan club, more friends, woman fancying me, girls that want to go out with me, woman ready to have an affairs with me ? Why am I so alone ?

I now believe that the nice guy comment is pretty much the same as saying.. you are bland, not much exciting, yeah you are loyal and you did not cheat on your wife, you don't do drugs and drink with moderation... but so what, you REALLY are kind of boring, aren't you not!

Is it really true, does woman really prefers jerks ?

 

Soooo Sooo tired of being the nice guy... I want to be the guy woman fancy!

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HappyTime11 HappyTime11
36-40, M
6 Responses Feb 26, 2009

<b>Elixor</b>, Cracking, that comment did cheer me up :)<br />
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<b>LonleyWoman</b>, These are words of wisdom! So far, I have been nothing but a nice guy... The "jerk" and "*** hole" are just not me!<br />
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Today I am becoming a nice man!

MAYBE THEY ARE JUST SAYING YOUR NICE.......... MAYBE BEHIND YOUR BACK THEY DESPISE YOU AND THINK YOUR A WHINER.....AND NOBODY SAYS WHINERS FINISH LAST SO CHEER UP.

As a Nice Guy myself, I always thinks Jerks will be more interesting and keep them guessing. I am tired of being a nice guy, but being a jerk is just not in me. I have tried and failed in that regard. I am simply doing my best to accept it.

I was a nice guy for quite a while, until I got sick of it. People started taking me for granted. Then I decided to screw all that, and became a sarcastic bastard. Now if I do something nice once in a while, I get more praise then I deserve. Sure beats "you're so nice, bye".

:D I guess a fan club would be nice ...<br />
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But just a few more friends would be fine as well...<br />
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Aka007, I know, nice guys always finish last

aww. how many friends is enough?<br />
women don't have afairs with nice guys :-)