Intolerant of This, No Apologies

PC attitudes are politely killing us all. I am disgusted that this society is so desperate for entertainment and distraction that there are 'reality shows' about the life of morbidly obese individuals. What am I supposed to enable them by dealing with their problems of being outsiders, who are ostracized and don't feel normal? Nope, too ******* bad.

If someone had just been bluntly honest and said "Renee, Jody, STEP AWAY FROM THE KFC AND KRISPYKREMES" Jody would be a healthy weight and Renee would still be alive. Not to mention Ruby and her reality diary TV show.

Jody has a TV show all about her "triumphant" struggle to go from 700+ pounds, to 385! Wow, great. Now you only weigh as much as 2 football players. Aw, people stared and pointed. Aw, you can't buy clothes off the rack. Are you kidding? OF COURSE! This ain't no glandular problem, she's talked about having 6 eggs for breakfast plus bacon plus bread and other awful eating habits. No, I don't feel the least bit sorry and will not support you trying to change everyone's perceptions to 'accept' this morbid obesity as a 'lifestyle choice', which it certainly is not. It is repugnant. There are entire societies starving to death who could live off of what she consumed in a week.

Renee was 900 pounds. Today is the 2 year anniversary of her death as reported on Oprah. She was lowered into 2 grave sites by crane. If someone had yelled at her to snap her out of this oblivious mindset and stopped bringing her an entire roast chicken and bucket of potatoes perhaps she'd be alive. Four years before her death, she was a mere 400 pounds. WHY didn't the family, friends, neighbors insist on intervention at that time; when she could still walk and take care of herself? They enabled her gaining 500 pounds and being bedridden for years, bringing her food and caring for her daily...horrible experience for her daughters.

Yes, she had gastric bypass finally at 1 hospital that agreed but many hospitals turned her down because she wasn't healthy enough to withstand the operation. She had a massive coronary 2 weeks later. Renee had no awakening before becoming 900 freaking pounds? Her daughters were on Oprah, talking about her terrible eating habits. They were taught not to say "normal" because "no one knows what normal is". Um, YES WE DO. And 900 pounds AIN'T NORMAL. Again, no glandular problem here. Now, we're supposed to celebrate her spirit to change her life by way of surgery (not change of consumption and lifestyle), but tragically she died? Hello? NO.

I'm uncomfortable 20 pounds overweight. I know when my clothes don't fit. I don't go out to purchase a sofa slipcover to wear. I lay off the peanut butter cups. Maybe take a walk around the block. But in this overly politically correct society, we're all too concerned to possibly offend anybody with honesty.

The obesity epidemic is one by product of the last 20 years of this PC behavior. They are not horizontally challenged, they are ******* fat and need to stop chowing pizza, chips and soda. I don't like seeing someone as influential as Oprah is on the masses, discussing the intolerance of people who wouldn't accept the 18 year old boy who weighs 800 pounds. Acceptance will hasten his demise.

Jody should not be a reality celebrity. Her difficulties existing in "a society not built for" her is the cost of ignoring her weight issue for decades. And there is a list of other ailments caused by the obesity. I don't think we all need to accept the obese in this society, we need to encourage responsibility for your actions.

Twenty-five years ago in NYC, lived a man named Walter Hudson who was over 1000 pounds. This was a rarity in the news. But he had committed to change his ways and did **** Gregory's Bahamian Diet. He lost weight. The news reported his progress. His heart gave out. A wall was removed in his apartment building to crane his body into a piano box for burial. This whole story was an unusual occurrence back then. And now it is rewarded with TV shows where we're encouraged to accept it as part of society. They weren't born like this, they overfed themselves. It's not OK. When will the PC bullshit end? Maybe when we enable everyone in every situation and reword the condition to be politically correct. They didn't lose the race, they were just victory challenged.

I have overweight friends who are intelligent, lovely, vital people. That is not at all what I am so insensitively addressing here with this post. Although, I wouldn't offer to take them to Pizza Hut or Burger King either. I'd say "Let's go home and make some green tea instead!"

qazrazl qazrazl
41-45, F
10 Responses Mar 26, 2009

Hi.Its the first time coming across stories that is so alarming in today's society.Read your post and all the comments and am so glad you said it all true with too many obese adults and children.In my country Singapore,we are being educated by our Government.Great post.

Wow, DentedSyke, thanks for the comments! You indeed rock as well! We should go head-banging in a mosh pit together! We're on the same wavelength.<br />
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I love this: "Like my mom used to say, "making mistakes is OK, but being stupid lasts all day long." " I actually did laugh out loud. <br />
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In my observation, I concluded race and ethnicity have nothing to do with it. We're all Americans, in spite of whatever cultural traditions a family might observe. <br />
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Inevitably, they'll wind up at 7-11 or McDonalds and even if avoiding the convenience of fast food, they'll still go out for dinner and those portions will be enormous. And we should just eat it now, because it's a sin to waste food and the doggy bag leftovers will spoil in the fridge.<br />
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The student stats you shared are scary. I can remember in elementary school that there was 1 really big kid but his was a medical issue. Hormones, age and inactivity definitely affect us all, I reiterate, I am no supermodel. <br />
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When I grew up, we were outdoors till dark set in. We cycled everywhere we went or walked. We unathletic kids still climbed trees and played dodgeball, there was no one who stayed inside all day watching cartoons (now replced with video games, internet and texting). No matter what the weather, we went outside. If nobody was around, I was in the garden with Grampa or raking leaves, shoveling snow or planting.<br />
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It is a different culture entirely than what kids experience today. The race is evolving mentally and time is moving faster. More activities fill each person's day. But there is less quality in those activities.

Wow! Probably the greatest ******* rant I have read on EP!!! Great because it was true and uncompromising. quazrazl, you rock the blog.<br />
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I'm an American high school math teacher, dealing with 17- and 18-year-old kids on a daily basis. In my pre-calculus classes, I have about 30% heavier than me (200 lbs), yet none are taller than me (6 foot even). In my AP Calculus classes, this rises to about 35%, and in my AP Statistics classes, this percentage jumps to approximately 50%!!! I have kids that are under 5"5' and weigh close to 250 lbs. Incredible.<br />
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My high school has a fairly equitable spread of caucasian, African-American, and Hispanic cultures, so the obesity problem cuts a wide swath, across cultures and races and income levels and ethnicities. It is an American problem, to be sure. As a kid, I ate a lot, but I was raised oon a ranch and worked my *** off. Never gained a pound. Going to college forced me to change my eating habits, and my advanced age (51) does the same thing. <br />
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Being PC isn't all that popular in west Texas. Being a rancher's son was probably the antithesis of enabling; it was a hard life with harsh judgments. My dad was all muscle, and my mom was tall and svelte. The kids were tanned and wiry. When I do happen to run into an old friend from that era, that old friend is still looking good, if somewhat weathered by working outside all the time. The obesity problem hasn't really made any inroads in this area, and therein lies a solution to the problem.<br />
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To wit, we eat fresh food and get tons of exercise. We don't make excuses for ******* up. No one lets us make excuses for ******* up. Being PC in rural west Texas is something amusing to us. Like my mom used to say, "making mistakes is OK, but being stupid lasts all day long." We are being stupid when we eat fast food, when we ingest gigantic portions in one sitting, when we adopt soda as our drink of sustainability. We are being stupid when we accept other's "nice" comments about gaining weight. <br />
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You are what you eat, but this ultimately becomes "you eat what you are." Eating bad food makes your body crave bad food. Eating healthy portions, and eating good food in those portions, is not difficult. Exercising is very difficult - for about 3 weeks. After that, you will miss it when you skip a workout. Everything will fall into place if you get off of your *** and have the balls to stick with it for a few weeks. <br />
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Again, great post. We need more like ths.<br />
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Enablers.<br />
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Parents need to set good examples and good habits for their kids. The eating habits of kids have been proven to carry on throughout their lives. It can be hard to retrain yourself. So, like other cycles of abuse, parents need to break the cycle for the next generation.<br />
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Processed food and fast food contains the 'crack" combination of fat,salt, and sugar in the right combination to get you addicted and perpetually unsatisfied.

EXACTLY, Lacey. And I'm tired of these people being celebrated and given talk shows to cry on and reality shows for voyeurs to watch them do menial tasks with difficulty. It's awful that this has become an epidemic in the U.S. <br />
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Look at the obese elementary school kids...stop indulging them and teach them nutrition before they get to 800 lbs by the time they are 18! But it all starts with the parents.

Freespirit, you rock. Soda and candy are not staples, are they!! The 800 lb-18 yr old boy's mother said "Oh, I spoiled him, I couldn't help it." Child abuse!!!<br />
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Jasmine, none of the people I mentioned had genetic predispositions to gain weight or have it all come back after they lost it. They never lost any, they never stopped eating. Their families were normal, in every case, each person just did not stop eating junk and far too much food for one person to consume in a day.<br />
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Their family members wheeled a food cart to their bedsides and fed them too much and the wrong food rather than argue with fattyfatso to change their ways. At this point they are immobile and have to be rolled over in bed to clean them.<br />
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Thanks for taking the time to comment. It doesn't apply to these folks. This is an all-you-can-eat-buffet society, huge portions, toxic food. Convenience stores sell 64 ounce sodas and soft drinks. The norm of consumption is killing us in America. Watch the film "Super Size Me".

You are right. But I do want to point out one thing as I used to work in the area of obesity research. There are some people who have a genetic susceptibility towards morbid obesity and they have a lifelong struggle that in a lot of cases overcomes them in the end. These people aren't like me and you, genetically speaking. This may not apply to all obese people, but there are a select group of people who can only do so much, they were destined to be this way and it is probably much and much harder for them to lose the weight if it all comes back on again or nothing much happens no matter how hard they try. <BR><BR>I'm not one of them, I'm not obese, maybe carry a few extra pounds. But just wanted to put forward another perspective. I'm not American either but have heard about the giant portions of junk food and so on that they eat over there, not a good thing if that is the 'norm'.

Your reply, Duchess, is almost as long as my story. A size 6??? That's damn near emaciated, woman! Quick, eat a candy bar! I am like 9/10. I have an hour glass, just more sand in it! The big boobs dictate a larger shirt size to comfortably fit and not appear to be a **** star.<br />
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Unfortunately, I have seen the pattern of US grocery stores' offerings go from 2 aisles of packaged snacks, chips, cereals, cookies and box-meals to just 2 aisles of vegetables, produce and dairy. When we shop, we stay to the store's perimeter of fresh foods, the rest of the aisles are preservative filled, prepackaged, unhealthy consumables. We eat whole foods, grains, veg.<br />
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I grew up with my grandparents who instilled in me the values and resourcefulness of having lived through the Great Depression. I learned to garden and make meals from scratch. <br />
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My mother thrives on convenience and a meal at her house consists of frozen veg, spice packets filled with toxic chemicals and preservatives poured on everything, store bought breads and fatty meats. Leaving very little for me to eat. I was ridiculed in 1985 for being vegetarian in my family. Twenty years on, struggling with cancer they turn to me for advice.<br />
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This society went off track a long time ago, as a whole. I have chosen to live on the fringe rather than the mainstream and have comfortably resided there over 25 years. We shop organic when possible, garden, use fresh herbs and spices, choose whole grains and whole foods and enjoy the subtle flavors of fresh meals. <br />
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Now, if we dine out socially, we find everything too salty, a metallic aftertaste in foods or nasty flavors in general. Everything advertised is all about convenience, high impact flavors and it all comes with high fat and chemical preservatives. We have a Thai food place that is vegetarian and grows their own organic produce that we prefer.<br />
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The all you can eat buffets and tremendous portions dining out casually do encourage obesity in our society. I find people eat not only for comfort but to dull the senses, distance themselves from their feelings and dealing with reality.<br />
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I don't like the opposite extreme of the growing anorexia/bulimia culture, Size Zero culture, (especially on EP) looking like holocaust victims, hollowed eye cavities, bad/dull skin, brittle hair, vertebrae and hips and ribs protruding. ARGH!<br />
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I grew up in suburbs, surrounded by beaches, parks, sidewalks and footpaths. That is also a description of where I live now, minus the beaches. And Seattle inspired me to walk everywhere rather than drive or take a bus because everything was lush, green and bloomed most of the year. My experience and lifestyle choices are not the mainstream of Americans.<br />
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I don't have all the answers and don't claim perfection but I do have enough self control and self love NOT to become 597 lbs. then insist on everyone celebrating me in my journey to acceptance of my "God-given size". I'm tired of America's extremes.

I'm not thin by any means but you're right. I don't watch TV so I don't let that crap get to me. I just hate to go shopping and see some blob riding in an electric shopping cart because they're too obese to walk around the store to get their groceries.

I don't care unless I am badgered to support someone of girth, like when they go on total disability. Or have to wheel my shopping cart around 'em and their train of pudgey children in WALMART. Put down the boo-boo burgers!