Why Do Happily Married People Feel The Need To Tell Everyone About It?

That's great and wonderful that they've found love but I don't need to hear it.   There are many people on this planet who either have no one to love, or are stuck in a horrible marriage or can't attract a decent person or for some other reason are alone.  So what do happily married persons do?  They insist upon telling everyone about how wonderful their partner is and how they've found the love of their life.  Nice.  That's like telling all the starving people in the world how we get to eat three meals a day plus snacks.  There is no point to it.  It does no good.

If someone is going to use the excuse, "well we're just trying to inspire you and keep your hope alive."  well, I'm not buying it.  It's depressing and just drives the point home that I will never find Mr. Right because you are married to him!  So, if you are indeed married to the greatest person in the galaxy, please keep it to yourself.

stella39 stella39
36-40, F
4 Responses Mar 1, 2010

Sorry that I attacked people in your situation. I guess I am angry at the lack of justice in the world. But for me normal and mentally healthy are a prerequisite for me to fall in love with someone. I'm not settling ever again. So I feel sad that I don't get to find a partner who is non-psycho and who would treat me good. I really don't hate happy couples. In some way I am happy for them. I'm not always miserable about my single situation, most of the time I'm grateful that I don't have to deal with a guy. But when I meet someone that I find attractive it's frustrating that I can't be with that level of a person. I don't blame the guy. Ultimately I shouldn't have started this group. You have the right to tell everyone you want about your happiness. I guess I was just venting and I notice that I don't usually do that in an appropriate fashion.

I'm not assuming anything. Only responding to a comment attacking people like me. Okay to be angry about it, yes. Ok to blame others for wanting to tell someone about their happiness, no. Normal, healthy is not a prerequisite for falling in love with the right person. Some of the stories I have read at EP involved what society would consider as extreme abnormality yet they have been able to find love and be happy. The two are not a combined gift. I am sorry you are hurting. I wish I could say something to you to heal your pain.

The problem with that argument is this: you are assuming that I am alone due to the fact of my failure to succeed. The reality of the matter is that not everyone gets to meet a normal, healthy person to fall in love with. There aren't enough good guys to go around. They are all either married or not interested in me. I am not putting your type down for being happily married I am putting down the ones that feel the need to tell everyone about it. If your idea about teaching the hungry to grow their food were really possible then hunger wouldn't exist, yet it does. The bottom line is life isn't fair and it's okay for me to be angry about it.

You know, my spouse and I are happily married. It takes hard work and we are proud of it because the fact is that most marriages today end in divorce. So instead of criticizing us maybe you should learn from our triumphs and failures. We've all had them. If you taught the starving how to grow their own food with seed and water and lots of love and care, they wouldn't starve anymore.