It Hurts Discovering The True Extent Of Misandry. But I'd Rather Know The Truth!Here we go. Misandry – that is, sexism directed against men – is an issue I have been interested in for years now and the more I find out about male suffering being dismissed and not given a **** about the more I get sad and angry about it and shout WHY? at my screen. (Seriously, earlier today, spit got on it again! I really need to get one of those microfiber cleaning cloths soon! :D)
War rape of men and boys, child soldiers, child slaves, the lower life expectancy, the staggering suicide rate, prison rape, misandrist laws e.g. against fathers and misandrist de facto policies in spite of gender-neutral laws on paper (by attorneys, police, courts, ...), glorifying violence, physical and emotional, towards men, glorifying hate against men, not giving a **** about their emotions and their suffering, no sympathy, no empathy, no love. Bullshitting about a patriarchy as if more than a few percent of men at the top were in any position of significant overbearing power. Schools and Universities failing boys and men. Most victims of violence being male. Virtually no support infrastructure for male violence victims, rape victims, men subject to misandry, male victims of domestic abuse, crossdressers, males subject to sissyphobia and transphobia and more feminine boys and men in general. Underpaid prostate cancer researched even though at least as many men die from it as women from breast cancer. The negative stereopypical portrayal of men and boys all over the place. Gay-bashing, the persecution of gays around the world, bullying, corporeal punishment only against boys in schools in some Asian countries. Missing male attachment figures in kindergartens, schools, hospitals, single-parent families, mainstream entertainment. Men being terminally afraid of physical intimacy with their family and friends. The UN e.g. fighting mostly against the trafficking of women, even though most people being trafficked are male work slaves, most of them young boys. False rape allegations. Men internalising the misandry and turnign on each other. People victim-blaming men who suffer. Men hating men and not trusting one another. I could go on!
But this is about how it feels for me as a human being. It ******* hurts reading about all those things knowing that due to the global chivalry pattern or whatever humanity is trapped in, most of their empathy and love goes towards women and girls by default – when men suffer they still find a way to twist it into it actually being women who suffer there so they can discard the men's suffering and move on to the half of the population that is easier to love, easier to empathize with, and easier to idealize and angelize due to their gender role and feminist spin, so they pure most of that onto them ... and THEN they wonder WHY more men are aggressive, are violent, commit more crimes, talk less about their feelings, smile less, are less attractive, are macho or homophobic.
Well, duh!!! If you want them to treat the world with love, the world has to treat them with love too. It's not that hard to understand. In fact, it seems so painfully simple to me that I can only facepalm at the world at large still not getting it in 2011. FOR ****'S SAKE!
On the other hand, it warms my heart to see the first small step-by-step progress of more empathy and compassion towards men and boys. Circumcision being outlawed in Sweden. Boy's day and boy's work projects in Europe. More male kindergarten teachers and nurses. Some equal opportunity commissioners giving equal attention to men's issues (often resulting in their sacking for not being P.C., but still they get work done before that!) Bromance. Yaoi. Inspiring well-rounded male role models, RL or fictional. Gay marriage legalisation. Yay! :)
To be clear, what I really don't like (not least because they are hurting the men's movement) are right-wing fundamentalists/homophobe/sissyphobe/transphobe/mysogynist "Men's Rights Activists". In fact, currently I like to call myself an equalist, partially to not make the same mistake the feminists made in denying the other gender's specific issues and ways of suffering from sexism and stupid gender roles.
I could write on about this for hours, but that's gonna have to wait for another post. Just had to get some of the pain off my chest, frankly!
If you want to do some own research on this wide topic, I recommend Wikipedia's article on Domestic Violence for starters, and then just browse through teh NCFM's web site. They are the best of their kind I found sofar, and seem to not shoot themselves in teh leg by housing the aforementionioned fundamentalists, as to many Men's Rights groups sadly do, yet another angrying WHATTHEFUCKERRY! (I like that word :D) This article on their blog shattered my world view considerably and made me more aware of the true extent of misandry: http://ncfm.org/2011/10/news/consc
If you have the urge to write an angry WTF! knee-jerk response I ask you to do some own research on the issues mentioned yourself first, be it at the sources I mentioned or wherever else, just relying on your internal bullshit detector, and come to your own conclusions independent of feminists's, or anyone else's advocacy. This is just me subjectively relating how it felt and feels finding out about this stuff for me personally and not me explaining all the aspects of the issue, Tim Goldich does that way better anyway. Thanks for reading!