Yes To NoAlong with being very shy, I also tend to say yes to everything asked of me even when my plate is full. I feel pressured to help them. I do not know why I would go an extra mile to help even those people I don't like very much. What I usually do is just to keep away from them.
Lately, I began to practice saying "No, thank you" or "I'm sorry but I have something to do too." What I'm going to say is really not a huge step. I would like to do baby steps. For instance, at a mall, I seem to cannot say 'no' to a salesman. Yes, I'm that serious of 'yes-man'. Now, I look them in the eye and say 'no, thank you.'
I know, I know. That's what I should have been doing from the very beginning but that's not what I do. It is just lately that I'm trying to assert myself. I have already gotten my wake-up call. People will walk all over you if you do not exude confidence. I feel bad for the next person to ask for my help. I'm going to say 'no' for the heck of it. I'm a person too. I have a job too. So, I'm going to say to him, "I'm sorry but have things to do. Maybe next time."