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"3" Step Program

You all know I relish over simplifying things and people that can do it!
I am not saying I can- but here's an attempt.
Step #1,- The person moves from a fetish attraction to the clothes of the opposite sex and becomes a cross dresser.
Step #2.- The person moves from the mirror to an inner feeling of identifying with the opposite gender and becomes transgender.
Step #3.- The person moves to align inner feelings with physical body modifications and becomes a transsexual.
Step #4.-A whole bunch of peeps want to trash me for this over simplification!
cyrsti cyrsti 61-65, T 5 Responses Jul 7, 2012

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In some ways it's much easier to go with the flow and subscribe to the binary gender schematic. Except I know deep down that that would not be good for me. I think there are some who are desperate to defend the choices that they have made. In a sense it's a form of being politically correct! Or cutting off your willy to spice your plaice ;) xxx

For me the fetish for women's clothing didn't happen. With that being said I do have fetishes for specific things. Women's rubber boots, latex, etc... but when I first started dressing occasionally the feel of satin on my boy parts would cause disasters. No mom I didn't see those pink pantys when I put away the laundry. I am moving from step two to three. Cyrsti I look forward to reading your blog.

I never had the fetish thing at all. Women's clothing was so taboo that I never went near it. I just put up such a big wall I think because I knew that if I ever transgressed it would be the end of my male life. Eventually under the influence of drugs (mdma) I did and my life has not been the same since.

No #4's here girls?

I really never had step 1, just 2 and 3. but you know this.

Why should I trash you? It's an attempt to deal with your feelings by using your mind. <br />
For me it's true that breaking one taboo certainly leads you on to other things. <br />
At present though I just wish that people with an "in-between identity" were more accepted. Why do I have to choose between two opposites, when I'm happiest sharing some of the aspects of both?

I write a very active blog and many times post one of my articles from there over here.
Sorry, I should have prefaced this post with saying it was a sarcastic dig at my blog critics who resent me for being (quote) a "successful" transgender person. That means they are very certain I shouldn't be able to lead a female life with out the surgery or ever mention my male life which at times provided pleasure.
Just bitter sad peeps who I "poke" on occasion. :)

I'll check out your blog, I have the feeling we're on the same wavelength. xxx

I agree...thanks!!

I had a look, but your US situation is so different from my own European experience I don't feel qualified to respond. Anyway love and kisses xxx

I just wanted to add how much your "tweener" comment is true.
I run into all kinds of peeps in our community who think my plan to NOT go all the way with SRS makes me a "faker". They also resent I write about positive male memories.
Just bitter bitter's a shame

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