My military boyfriend has just been posted to a base 14 hours away :( I love what he does for our country and he is a real sweetheart when we are together but I still can't help feeling lonely and abandoned.
spiritgirl1221 spiritgirl1221
26-30, F
3 Responses Aug 22, 2014

My husband is in the military and he was gone for 6 months and that was the hardest thing in the world for me bc we have never been apart since the day we got together and that's 3 yrs. we spend every waken hr together then he got to come home for 10 days and knowing he had to leave in those 10 days really sucks it's really hard knowing that he is leaving but getting to count down the days and hrs your get to be with him again is like falling in love all over again. You will realize things about him and your relationship that you never would have before. You will never take advantage of his time or your time with him, your whole life is going to change but remember that it is for the better and that it does and will get easier I promise keep your head up. I'm here if you need to talk.

Thank you so much! I appreciate every second I get with him, even just cuddling in front of the TV is prescious to me :)

That's when it's the most perfect just knowing everything there in the moment is everything you've been wanting

When he gets back to you, you will experience love you have never seen before

When he gets back I'm going to smother him in kisses and cuddles haha!

It is so hard to have a relationship when he is gone away in the military. Feeling alone and abandoned is natural. You can't change that. I had a buddy whose wife was in the military and I saw what he went through. I totally know where you are coming from. I seen it for years. I feel for you :(

I think the hardest thing to come to terms with is his sense of duty to his country is so strong that no matter how much pain he goes through either leaving or the wounds he collects (comes back with new bullet holes every time) he just keeps going back. He doesn't want to leave but he can't stay. There's a lot going on inside him that he doesn't tell me and he probably never will. I just need him to understand that I would support him no matter what and will always be waiting for him to come home :,)

Deep down he knows you will support him and he also knows you will be waiting for him as well. I don't know your situation but the buddy of mine with the wife in the military felt the same way you do. His wife was so into serving our country and that was her number one concern. It sounds like your boyfriend feels the same way so please give him the time he needs. Please don't push him. Just let him do what he feels he needs to do right now. Believe me it will be much better in the end :)
If you ever need to talk message me :)

No I never push him I always let him do what he has to. I love him all the more because of the way he is but it's a double edged sword.

That's a great thing that you give him the space he needs. I couldn't agree with you more that it's a double edged sword. Stay strong and it will all work out in the end :)

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