Am I Heartless?

It's not that I'm selfish. I care so much about people, and I try my best to express that. I'd do anything for the people I care about.

It's just that I'm the one everyone turns to for advice, counselling and sympathy. And now sometimes when people are talking to me I find myself thinking about my weight, instead of focusing on them 100%.

I don't mean it, and I certainly don't want to become self absorbed.  I am trying to think of other people and stop obsessing about myself and how much I weigh today and how many calories are in that meal... etc.

I think I'm just tired of everyone else now, because all they do is complain to me about their lives. It depresses me. I'm tired of listening to that. That's awful, isn't it?

mooshmoosh mooshmoosh
18-21, F
5 Responses Feb 5, 2007

I can relate because I obsess about my weight and my looks to and alot of my friends think I'm self absorbed and that I'm just doing it to get attention! They don't realize what lives are like for people like us!

Everyone finds her/himself drifting off sometimes when listening to others' problems. My advice is not to worry about being selfish - you're just being human. <br />
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I would watch the calorie obsession, though. I'm a recoverine anorexic, and trust me - that is not a road you want to travel.

Everyone finds her/himself drifting off sometimes when listening to others' problems. My advice is not to worry about being selfish - you're just being human. <br />
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I would watch the calorie obsession, though. I'm a recoverine anorexic, and trust me - that is not a road you want to travel.

Everyone finds her/himself drifting off sometimes when listening to others' problems. My advice is not to worry about being selfish - you're just being human. I would watch the calorie obsession, though. I'm a recovering anorexic, and trust me - that is not a road you want to travel.

You just need a break from it that's all. And as for thinking about how you look while someone is talking to you. That is normal. It is said that women think about how they they look as much as guys think about women. Which is between every 5 to 15 min.