I Know I Can't Rely On Anyone Else For Happiness
I almost made this an experience group in itself, but it would be better as a story in this group because the story I am going to share fits well with this group and will probably get more people reading it in a group that already exists rather than in a brand new group. Plus, there are many, many similar groups across the site anyway that could probably be combined into one.
I've learned that I can't rely on anyone else for my own happiness. Well, I CAN, but I know it's not a good idea---not advisable AT ALL. If I hadn't relied on someone else for happiness, I wouldn't be so depressed right now. My boyfriend became my life. I poured my energy into our relationship and making him happy. The scales didn't balance out though, because I was a giver and he was a taker. He didn't do much to try to make me happy. I tried to be who he wanted to be. I just wanted to make him happy and BE happy with him. But he ended up not liking how I became, and he fell in love with someone else. It broke my heart. We had so much planned together, and I'd changed myself and put so much into the relationship....all for nothing, as far as he is concerned. I believe everything happens for a reason though, so it's not all for NOTHING---if anything, I'll LEARN from this.
How strange that I made the source of my happiness someone that didn't even make me all that happy!
But I know even if someone DOES make me happy, very happy--while that's great, they should NOT be my source of happiness. I can be happy about many many things---people, events, places, etc, but I should rely on that which cannot be taken away.
Life isn't all about being happy either, but it's good to be satisfied. If a person is never satisfied--always wanting more, then something is wrong.
"It's not getting what you want--it's wanting what you've got." ---Sheryl Crow