I'am Trying

I'am trying my best to have a better relationship with my dad because we were never really close and we have never really gotten along and he has hurt me all my life so i don't know why i want a relationship with him but i guess i just want to try. I just want him to love and accept me and treat me good insted of treating me like trash and the same for my step-mom because they have treated me like trash all my life they had treated me very badly in the past and now anyway i just wish they would love and accept me and treat me good instead of being mean to me and treating me like trash i'am just trying so hard for them to love and accept me and treat me good but they haven't and that just hurts me very deeply and it also makes me cry that they would treat the way they did in the past and now.

goneawayforgood goneawayforgood
22-25
5 Responses Mar 27, 2009

Yeah i know i had never wanted an relationship with him either because he has just treated me so badly in the past and now.

thank you. i just never had it in my heart to have a relationship with him, and it wasn't until he was out of my life for good that i could truly heal and move on. he could never understand why i didn't want to be around him, which is exactly what kept the problem going.

Thankyou for saying that it makes me feel a lot better i really appericate it and i'm sorry that you didn't have a good relationship with your dad either it has to be really hard to go through but at least you won't have to be around him or see him so he won't hurt you anymore.

i can totally relate to what you're going through. i never had a good relationship with my dad either. i don't have contact with him anymore, and my life has been better in every way since i stopped. <br />
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it's completely normal to want a good relationship with him, but if things don't work out just remember this: THE PROBLEM IS NOT WITH YOU. you've done your part. the rest is up to him. no matter what happens, just remember that it's his loss for not treating his awesome daughter the way she deserves to be treated.

moonshimmer,<br />
it seems like you're very hard on yourself. firstoff, how old are you? my dad and i are just now okay and i'm almost 23.<br />
all you can do is say that you are trying with your dad. if you keep trying and get nothing in return, it's time to call it quits. he's the parent and you are the child, no matter what age you are that never changes.<br />
throw the ball in his court and if he doesn't play, leave it there. it's not worth continuously getting hurt over. you deserve better. good luck. :)