Trying To Be Positive

(Originally a blog)

Was talking to a fellow EP'er and in my mail I wrote something that was from the heart and I thought I would share it with the rest of my friends....

I think to be happy you not only is it a choice but also a feeling of peace inside you. To be satisfied with the choices you have made in your life, for good or bad, to have your soul calm and not hurting or regretful about anything is what also leads to being happy. Of course if you go to church being good in your faith and having that feeling of being close to God is also a way to have your soul at peace.

So yes it is a choice to have but also you have to be happy with you, if your not then things tend to lash out at others. Thing is you can kid others but you can't kid yourself in how you are happy. If your not really happy with your self then it shows.

I am working on being happy myself, to accept the fact that the past is the past and that I can only learn from it, cant change it and the choices that made then will unfold things in my future that I have to be ready to take on, for good or bad. My mom being one for a story told me one that I think I am going to have her email to me cause I think it fits where I am at so neatly.

There was a wise old man who had a horse, his son was out tending the horse and the horse got away, the villagers asked the man if that is a good thing or a bad thing? The man replied "I don't know if it is a good thing or a bad thing." The villages said that it is a bad thing.

A week later the horse came back and brought a herd with him. The villagers asked if that is a good thing or a bad thing. The man answered "I don't know if it is a good thing or a bad thing." The villagers said that is a good thing.

The son went out to break one of the horses and the son broke his leg when he got bucked off. The villagers said is that a good thing or a bad thing. The man responded " I don't know if that is a good thing or a bad thing." The villagers said that is a bad thing.

Few weeks later the army came into the village and took all the young men to war, the son could not go cause his leg was broken. Upon the first engagement of battle the young men from the village all died.

So is it a good thing or a bad thing?

I can't say, I can deal with what I have been dealt and make the most out of it, being confident in the fact that I am making the best choice for me at the moment and not to have regrets over the choice.

I wondered if my ex felt that the past 17 years of our marriage was a complete and total waste of time cause she wasn't happy in the marriage for about 10 years, I realize that I wasn't really happy either but I was doing what I could to be happy, she had responded back that she didn't think that the past 17 years were a waste of time, they made her who she is today, and I have to accept the fact that I was part of that cause she also helped make me who I am today. Is that a good thing or a bad thing? I can not say cause the rest of my life has not happened yet.

It seems that things overall even though they maybe bad at the time will be better in the long run, I look at my current job, the one I was never to be hired for, I applied at a company and was interviewed a few times but not hired, instead was hired as a vendor with another company and have been working here for 13 years, if I was to get on with the company that I applied originally with I would have been laid off a few years ago and would be trying to get another good job. The company that I applied for is now in trouble and is not doing well, but the company that I work for now is doing really well.

We can't always see the end result of the choices that we make and what we choose now effects our future, for good or bad. But then you have to ask yourself is it a good thing or a bad thing?

The point is that enduring through the hardships and having a good attitude about it, making the best out of every situation. That is what can bring happiness.

I am learning that.... Slow? Yes.... But understanding why....
mtvlm mtvlm
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2 Responses Jul 21, 2010

Yes it can..... Thank you for the comments......

Our pastor at church told us that story. Great story! So glad to see it again. I completely agree about attitude. It can really make a difference in our stress level!