My Definition

 For me, flattery is, well, FLATTERY.  It's lots of big words intended to be complimentary, but lacking in real substance.  My discomfort has a lot to do with the provider of the flattery, who in my experience seems to be somewhat insincere and perhaps well-intentioned, but nevertheless more annoying than encouraging.  My mental reaction to flattery is to think "What kind of an idiot do you think I am, to fall for this nonsense?".  Get real already!

AnnOnimus AnnOnimus
36-40, F
2 Responses Jan 6, 2010

I hate flattery too. People do it a lot to me to get me to do things, and I'm so stupid I often don't realise until afterwards. I'd rather know what people really thought anyway.

Wow, interesting reaction to flattery.<br />
You can get a compliment in appreciation for something you said, did or are wearing. No strings. You can also get a compliment as a pick-up line. That's when you walk the other way.<br />
So, if you wore a nice dress and I walked passed you with a comment that it looks good on you, would you react with "What kind of an idiot do you think I am, to fall for this nonsense?"