Never A Paying Job.

I have bin unemployed in a way sinse 2002 but that's bcause I was made redundant from a company that was closing down & I had worked for it for 25 yrs & then I bcame a carer for my elderly parents for the next 5 yrs up until they passed on. Sinse then I have bin working through various agencies, some jobs good & some not so good.

I do have a part time gardening job for elderly residents, grass cutting,weeding etc but it would be nice to have a full time job again now but with problems like (SA,SP or GAD) of which I suffer it can be somewhat difficult.

I'm glad you're better now :) I've tried exposure therapy because everyone so many people say it works for them, but it does not work for me. The more often I go out in public, the more afraid I get to go out again. The more I'm around people, the worse I get, not better. Plus, I have no desire to be in social situations & I don't feel a need to do something that I find not only excruciatingly painful, but pointless & incredibly tedious, too. I would do it, besides that, if it were helpful, but it's not.

Thank You very much & I completely agree with your statement "I think that unless a person suffers from social anxiety on this level, they will never understand." :)

I understand how you feel. I've been silently suffering with social anxiety for many years now, and I know the sheer effort that it takes to leave the safety of home on a daily basis.



I think that unless a person suffers from social anxiety on this level, they will never understand.



It's good that you have come to terms with it and I hope that you one day find something comfortable and fulfilling that you can do to earn income.

I've tried taking classes on campus for two semesters. I only had to leave the house two days a week & it was so hard I ended up having to withdraw from classes all because I was too afraid to leave the house. You may think I have a self-defeating attitude, but I actually have a very realistic attitude. I know what I can & can't handle & I know it from experience. How am I supposed to handle a job when I can't even handle classes? A job would be much harder & I would have to deal with people a lot more than I ever did while taking classes. If I'm too afraid to leave the house, I definitely can't work somewhere. I would love to find an online job, where I wouldn't have to leave the house or deal with people in person, but there are few jobs available online & none for people who have no experience.

I am not an expert but what I have been reading you are being very self defeating by starting to say I can't handle one even if I do get one they say future emplyers can sense that so I might work with your thearpist on where you pannic is comming from a very good book to read is adaptability how to handle change you don't want it has helped me with some confidence

Maybe she's on disability. Or maybe she has a husband that works & makes enough money so she doesn't have to work, herself.



She might not get your comment, because unless you subscribe to a stories comments or something, you don't get them unless it's on your story.

Wow! how do u support yourself sara600?

Before I was diagnosed as having social anxiety I did work, but wasn't able to hold down a steady job. I only had my job for six months. When I was let go I blamed it oin my learning didability that was why I lost my job, but now I know it wasn't my learning disability it was my social anxiety disorder that caused me to lose my job.



I have now been unemployed for the last 21 years, but have done a lot of self-soul searching taking self-help groups and individual counseling. But recently learned that my present counselor is discontinuing her private practice. So I will be looking for a new counselor.