Man Trapped In An Unhappy MarriageI have two young daughters. I'm not going to go into a long whiny list of complaints about my wife; instead, I'm going straight to the bottom line...
I want out of my marriage, but I'm trapped. I need answers...
1. I can't get the money. I'm upside down on the mortgages. I have two mortgages on the same house. I'm up to my eyeballs in debt. Even if I had the money, I couldn't support two households after the divorce: alimony and child support. IF she worked, her earning potential is below $10 hourly in a part time job.
2. She will shelter the kids from me, lie to them, make them not want to see me ever again (this was confirmed to be true when she left me with the kids during an affair).
3. She will likely fall into bad company (since she IS bad company), get hooked up with an abusive guy (or a long string of abusive guys) who will ultimately abuse my daughters.
My Current Solution:
I wait until my youngest is 18 (in 10 years). Then, I'll divorce. Then I'll declare bankruptcy and have my marriage debts reduced. This is assuming that I can make it until then without declaring bankruptcy. IF a miracle does happen, and I'm able to reverse the debts and build a savings, I save until my youngest is 18 (in 10 years), and start a new life. Either way, it looks like I'm stuck for the long haul. That's 10 years of smiling, putting up with her crap, and picking up the slack for her.
Any other solutions out there? I'm all ears.
cagedlion 36-40, M 2 Responses 0 Jul 9, 2012