Ready To Call It Quits

I am a 35 yr old woman whose been married for 12 yrs. I can say I am truly ready to call it quits. I feel our marriage has run its course and things will never be the same again. No matter what he does, it doesnt seem to make me happy. Im not attracted to him anymore, I dont care for sex with him anymore, I honestly dont love him anymore. He cheated on me in the past and I don't think I could ever forgive him. We have grown apart. I have 2 beautiful kids and I think they are the reason why I stay, but I dont know how much longer I can do it. I am a woman fed up and feel like I am wasting my time with the wrong guy. Im looking for advice from anyone who can give it, Help....
unhappilymarriedcutie unhappilymarriedcutie
31-35, F
4 Responses Jan 6, 2013

I've decided to leave, I told him few days ago.

Just because someone else wanted him at some stage ( cheating in the past ) it doesn't mean he is worth keeping.Good luck with this.

I say make a plan. Where will I you go live, how much money is needed in savings account. School plan for the kids- pick up, drop off, daycare all that figure out. All that is important, think about it. Good Luck (: ((((hugs)))))

Hey...thanks for replying. Sorry your in the same situation. I understand exactly how you feel and what you must be going through. I have made up my mind, I am gonna call it quits. Im planning on telling him soon. I have prepared and planned this for a yrs. I am ready, I just can't be miserable anymore, no one deserves that. I believe the love of my life is still out there and I wont find him being tied up in a marriage I don't want. I have talked it over with my family and all are on my side. I'ts time for some happiness, no one deserves misery. I do hope you plan well and do the same, don't put your life on hold forever, you shouldn't stay in a place where your unhappy, life is too short for that. I hope you find the strength and courage to leave. Hope all works out, I'll be in touch.

I wish I could help, but Im in the same situation. I'm 29 years, with two beautiful boys. Not married by church or at all just common law but after being in this unhealthy relationship for 7 yrs. I've made a plan, I'm still young and want better things for me and my boys. I'm going back to school as soon as I get the opportunity to get my life together. Ive made a choice to leave him, his unhappy. I'm unhappy getting bitter by the minutes. And on top of that my kids get to pay my frustration- I'm a good mother and a good woman who deserve better than this. Going to church has help me have hope and faith. And I've learned to love my self more. Its time for me to shine, for my happiness. Being with him for just custom is not worth it. I will leave him for good this year. But first I have to have a plan, saving. And prepmy self, emotionally and mentally. I see it as I'm going to War....Try to do something similar. Maybe counseling so you can reinforced you stay strong. Prepare your self Because this fight wont be easy.