My husband was a firefighter who survived 9/11. He was the only one who came back in his firehouse.I have spent 11 years suffering through his sedatives and refusal to seek help. He sleeps constantly and resents my asking for help around the house or just going out to lunch. Recently we got a puppy because I thought this would give him a reason to participate in life. I have become the sole care giver of this adorable little guy but didn't need another responsibility. I feel like I am at the end of my rope and therapy is not helping. I am so lonely it hurts.

mugsy818 mugsy818
56-60, F
3 Responses Jan 6, 2013

I have to agree with Mocha. You have to be happy too. It is heartbreaking what happened to your husband and he will never fully get over it, BUT you can't give up on life. So many people do though, it's sad. 11 years is a long time to wallow in sadness.
Best of luck to you both...

Your husband gave his all, for the welfare of others and now it has cost him the life he deserved . Like a returned soldier , he has been emotionally damaged and this will be hard to recover from. I wish you all the very best.

I hate to say it, but you need to give him time to figure things out. I'm not sure if this is financially possible for you, but life was meant to be spent in happiness and in good health. Yes we will experience hardship from time to time, but not like this. You deserve to live and be happy. We all suffered from 9/11 and I'm not suggesting that his feelings should be taking lightly, but this can go on forever. Maybe you giving him time to himself will allow him to see how much his neglect, and selfishness has hurt. Maybe not..2013 no more!