I Just Want Him To Meet Me Half Way.....

We've had a rough patch and we can't get through it. I have insecurities and he is just so unappreciative and doesn't "get" me at all. I want to be happy with HIM, but asking him to do small things around the house, things with the kids, and things for me, is like I'm asking him to lasso the moon. There are kids my son's age who can hit a ball, throw a ball, ride a bike really well, and my son is lacking in these areas because dad would rather sleep on the couch. Am I supposed to be the mom and dad in this family? I know single moms do this all the time, but considering we are married and live in the same household, I am not a single mom.

I try to cook great meals and get rewarded by getting stuck doing all the clean up while the kids are trashing their playroom because no one is watching them, or doing anything productive with them. I'm on the verge on a break down, I just want to scream I NEED HELP, from the top of my lungs, but even if I do, my cries will fall on deaf ears. I don't know what else to do. I want to leave, but I fear for what is in store for my kids and I. Financially I can't make it on my own but will need to find a way because I want my kids to have a dad who would rather spend time with them than sleep on the couch. I feel as if I shouldn't have to pester him to spend quality time with his kids, he should want to do it because he loves them. I want to be with someone who tells me they love me and who makes me feel cherished. I want to be a happy family but if that means that he'll have to put in some work, it may be out of the question. I'm tired of putting in all the work in our relationship, I just want him to meet me half way.
Pinkas Pinkas
31-35, F
1 Response Jan 7, 2013

Sounds like a typical man, and I don't like it anymore than you do. I want to leave for similar reasons, but don't want to for about the same reason.
I'll keep being mom, dad, wife and husband if I have to. I won't like it, but it's better than a split home and struggling financially. Good luck to you!