To Long

I have been married for 25 long hard years, to a man that has adused me& my kids. His latest thing is he forces me to have 2 min. Love making sessions. I am not happy and haven't been for over 10 years. I've been trying to seek help. And I keep getting told that there is no help.
pouting pouting
51-55, F
7 Responses Jan 7, 2013

I hear you....there is help out there. I have a similar situation. My fiancé(we have a child together)only give me 2 min Love making sessions. I am not happy and haven't been for over 8years. I've been trying to seek help. And I keep asking her to go to couples therapy but she doesn't answer me. No physical abuse, she gives the children and animals more affection then me. I keep on trying for my daughter's sake.

The only thing that I can come up with and I have started working on my self. is to save up the $10,000. To get a divorce. and enough to pay rent for a year. Leave my husband, divorce him and have a year to get my life on track and get on my feet. The bad thing about this is it's going to take me 2 or 3 years to do this.

I'm in the same boat. I hurt and have become isolated. I don't know what to do.

Thanks. I'm not planning to give up. I think my problem is I don't have small kids. My youngest is 14. and the women's shelter here doesn't like teen age boys a whole lot.

That don't sound right. Agencies are supposed to referred you some where if they can't help. Don't give up, keep trying. What do you think of a Woman Shelter? Just as something temporarily. Maybe you can start there, also try finding help through a counseling agency. They normally have good resources. You can also pick up a flyer at the WIC office- help women with small children with basic and nutrition needs. In my experience even the government has said, No we can't help you. But I've never gave up- I keep trying serching for help. I found a social worker in my area, and thanks to her was able to get $600 for foodstamp. Ask around with the numbers I called alot of numbers. Dont think because you have anywhere to go you must be there! and keep dealing with this. Keep searching I'm sure yo will find answers soon.

I have no place to go, no one to turn to. and have went to different agencies looking for help. And every place keeps telling me that I need to get him to leave. I have been trying. but he wont go.

Why can't you get. Out of this unhealthy relationship? How does he he abuse you? And your kids? I get so upset when there is kids involved.