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Can'T Wait

Every day that passes is a one day closer to freedom and happiness...
solovingsolo solovingsolo 51-55, F 2 Responses Jun 10, 2013

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How do u take that step though?

Are you afraid at all?

I'm 45 and I fear if I leave, being alone the rest of my life. Then again, I am much like you and so very tired of tears and pain.

I am so very afraid but i cant live the rest of my life hurting and crying...I only live once and ill make the most out of the short years that's left of me...

Im not afraid of being alone..although we still stay under one roof, ive been alone for as long as i can remember. I have two grown kids who will probably leave in two years time. I adore them so much and they were the reasons i stayed ,

Quite honestly, im more afraid of hurting him by leaving. But you see, I married him largely because of pity( my bad) ..i cant stay for the same reason...

I forgot to mention that ive given him many chances in the past but he did nothing perhaps being very confident that im not capable of leaving having been loyal to the marriage ever since....

Wow, we sound a lot alike. I stay out of pity too.....He always gives me this sad song when I say I want out, so I stick around. :(

eke, I am 45 too and I took the step in March.

I moved out with my kids.

If I'm alone forever, it's better than being with someone who doesn't respect or cherish me forever, being with someone I resent forever.

I have my children, I have my friends. I'm not sure there's another partner out there for me, but I'm nowhere near ready to even think about exploring that option.

I'm breaking free of my bad marriage and the focus is on making this go as smooth for myself and my children. I'm not getting into another relationship until I'm healed from this one.

I envy you and congratulate you as well. Wish you much luck on your new journey!

My husband used pity as his manipulation to get me to stay too. You never know when it will happen, but you will have a moment that is your no turning back moment, it will propel you forward. This isn't an easy road, but it's so worth it. I know your day will come.

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