My wife and I have been together for fifteen years. We have two wonderful kids. The problem is that we have no sex life. My wife has gained a tremendous amount of weight and has many physical issues as a result. Mainly her back and emotional health. I try to be supportive and influence her to take action by emphasizing the health effects of being 5'9" and 275lb. I tell her she is beautiful all the time but I am beginning to lose my patience. She is not taking in steps in trying to trim down. I dont expect her to weigh what she did when we met or even close. I just want a partner that can participate in activities and a normal sex life. I am ashamed to admit that I am embarrased when we are out sometimes. I just dont know what to do.