3 Years In A Relationship And Cannot Move On

I have been in a relationship with this man for 3 years. He is one of the best things ever happened to me. He did a lot for me and he is always there to help me. But we have one big issue here, we cannot be together because he doesn't want to marry me who comes from different cultural and religious backgrounds, which seem to be very important for him. We're staying in this relationship because we both are hoping that our partner will change. I am hoping that he will change his mind and he is hoping that I will change my mind, that is to stay in status quo. I am unhappy in this situation, but I am afraid to leave because I know he loves me and I love him and that he has done a lot for me. I cant bear losing someone like him who always listens to my stories and who is always there to cheer me up whenever I'm down. I also don't want to hurt him and I don't want him to hate me if I decide to leave him. But I also want to move on, I cannot wait for him forever because I want a progress and have my own family one day. 
Emiliara Emiliara
2 Responses Apr 25, 2011

3 years is alot of time to invest. Religious beliefs can be a very important facet of a relationship. If that is the only thing holding you too back and everything else is ok, maybe there could be compromise? Have you been to his church before? What if you converted to his religion?

You have to love yourself as well. I was in a 4 yr relationship with a man who said he wasn't sure if he wanted to marry me. Yet he ended up cheating on me and then marrying that girl a month after we broke up. I realized I wasted 4 yrs hoping he would change into a man he never was and never would be. All I am saying is don't waste your life. He may be more of your friend than the one for you.