New to all of this. Help please I feel like my marriage is falling apart and I don't know what to do. My husband and I have been married for 9 years and have been together for 10. We have a 7 year old son. In the beginning we were very in love. But about a year after our son was born our relationship went south. We were no longer intimate. Then I found out that he had an emotion affair. I decided to stay and try to work thing out. I am at a point now that I do not know what to do, we are hardly intimate and all, and when we are 98% of the time it is I that provokes it. He gets frustrated with me a lot and thinks they my ideas are stupid. I love him so much but hate him all at the same time. I don't know whether to stay or leave or how to fix this. And every time I think I have moved past his affair it comes back into my mind all over again like it was yesterday and upsets me all over again and he doesn't understand why. Please help.
hopeful1220 hopeful1220
36-40, F
2 Responses Sep 1, 2014

I just don't know what else to do. He I tell him I want to go to counseling and he just ignores it and says I blame everything g on him and that I do no wrong. But that is not it at all. I am telling him why I am unhappy. And then he tells me pretty much that I am stupid for bringing up his affair and it happened years ago why are you bringing it up. Like I am just suppose to forget it and ignore that I feel like it has ruined our marriage. And he doesn't understand why it still upsets me. Like I am suppose to just think that everything g is perfect and I am loved. Even though he shows me no attention or affection, but yet was able to show some other women the things I want. I feel so lost and alone.

You have invested 10 yrs. Me 35 yrs. I should have gotten out when he had his 1st affair but i wanted my son to have both we are in a loveless marraige, he lives his own life and i am all alone, no friends, kids are grown and making their own lives. If you are smart you will get into counseling for both, if he refuses get out while your still young and make a new life for yourself. Good luck. Let me kmow how things turn out for you. Your decision.