Help

I'm in the same boat. When I retired from the army I moved to a new town and I stared dating a single mother with two kids and I stared to realize that we wasn't compatible because of her explosive temper and I tried to break off the relationship. She stared to talk talking about suicide so I tried to ease out of the relationship however, the more I tried to get out the more she put me on a guilt trip and how her kids had gotten close to me and that it would be ****** to get out. One night she called and told me that she was going to kill herself so I can to her house and she begged me to marry her and I couldn't say no haven't survived a near death combat experience I had survivors' guilt and felt like I need to give back. We married and I spent everything I had buying her a business and put my self in dept trying to support her and her kids. We now have one together so I stuck in this horrible relationship. I beg for sex but she says no and she sleeps with her 9 year old son. I just need to vent. I'm misreable. But I can't afford to get divorced plus I don't want my son to grow up in a broken home. 
AS162988 AS162988
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2 Responses Aug 8, 2010

It is already broken. It is NOT your fault. She won't kill herself. She knew that would get you to stay. I have used that myself, when I was young and cruel. Just leave friend. Be a good great wonderful daddy. Everything will be ok.

This is just my thought. You do what you think is right. I'm just some guy on the Internet. My own thoughts on this is that kids learn about relationships primarily from watching their parents. If you and your wife are not getting along then what does that tell your son? What is he learning there? If your wife uses you (or vice versa in other relationships) what do our kids learn about how to relate to the opposite sex? For that matter how to expect to be treated? Look at all the kids who grew up in dysfunctional homes and how their own marriages turned out years later. Yes, there are exceptions. Do you want to count on your son to learn the lessons of being an exception? Sorry, I think Dr. Laura is wrong in toughing out a bad marriage for the kids sake as their primary model for relationships is the parents. Secondary are TV shows like Sex in the City and Californication. <br />
Just my thoughts. You do what you believe is best. Ttrain your son and show him the best examples you can find.