What Would You Do?So things in my marriage are going pretty good. There are many things I am thankful for, and they reassure me that moving back to try again was worth it. Things really are going to better and we are trying hard to ensure that it stays better. But there are some things that aren't better, and it's hard to fix them. It's also hard to confront my husband about them, cause things are good and I want to make sure he doesn't feel like I'm never happy with what he does. (he feels that he can never please me at times)
I left because he was emotionally abusive to me and the kids. He is now much, much better. Things feel good, and light, and happy. He doesn't get mad at them like he used to. They seem relaxed and happy too. The anger isn't there like it was.
I left because he always went out and it seemed that being a father/husband was a burden and he resented us. He stays home with us now, and finds ways to have fun that way. (he grew up and realized he wasn't 21!! and that having a family was more important than partying)
I left cause he was drinking too much. He doesn't do that anymore.
I left because he had all kinds of 'friends' on facebook that were women and he shared very private things with them. He no longer does that. Or... at least I don't think so. He has blocked me from fb and when I bring it up he starts getting all huffy. Makes you wonder, right? I don't think he is back to the chatting with other women simply because he is not on his computer or his blackberry like he was before. You can tell he's not chatting. But I can not find him on fb to make him my friend, and when I said that to him, he said that I'm getting all paranoid about it. Said he is thinking of getting off of fb all together because of 'my issues' over it. So yes, I see his evasiveness as a problem. But what do I do about that?? Make some sort of ultimatum? Keep nagging him? I'm not an idiot. I see that I should be concerned. But like I've said above, there are so many BIG things that are going right, that I don't know how to deal with this one. It's not nothing, but it's not the end of the world either.
I'm not exactly 'unhappy in my marriage' overall anymore. But what do I do about the parts that are not smoothed out? We cut each other out of our fb accounts when things were bad. I get that. But if we are good now, shouldn't it be obvious that we don't cut each other out anymore?