My Loveless Marriage

I feel for you. It sounds like you did things right and that you had good intentions etc etc. but that it just hasn't worked out for you. Sorry to hear that.

Have you really tried to talk to your husband about this?

Like not to just mention it in passing but to sit down and

have a good heart to heart about this? Do you feel like you still love

the guy. DO you feel like he loves you only that he is not affectionate

enough? If you don't know then you should ask him. Ask him if he

still loves you and then you should tell him how you feel about

there not being enough love and affection in the marrage

and then you should propose that he work on it. Or maybe the

2 of you could consider counseling together.

I believe that trying with extra effort to make it work is better

then to just ditch the whole thing. SO talk to him about this

and lay it on the line. Tell him that you are unhappy with the way

it is going and so forth. Sometimes the other half just doesn't know.

Now other than that > do you think there is anything else that

could be going wrong in the marriage other than lack of closeness?

do you think hes cheating? do you think he has personal issues

like just doesn't know how to express love?? It could just be a

personal issue with him that he just doesn't know how to be expressive

in that way. so maybe he needs counseling and or some kind of other

help. But the key is you need to address the whole issue with the guy

in a real way. Like not just in passing but in a real sit down and

have a real talk about it and tell him the whole issue and that

you need for things to change. Communication is the key

its a place to start. If he loves you he will consider what you have

to say and try to work on this.

good luck

There's such a difference between sex and intimacy, I too am in the same boat and because of children I can't leave (also I have strong beliefs too)......It's so so sad that we are young and can't expect to have long happy marriages but where do you go from here? I can't offer advice really because I am in the same situation but just know you're not the only one staying because you need to and not because of choice. I'm just sorry that it is this way......Stay positive and find some happiness in the situation. All the best