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Very, Very Insecure.

I don't know why anyone would like me, or would want my friendship, or anything more. The fact is I'm a hidden mess. I'm mostly scared of loss, of rejection, of failure.I think I'd be ecstatic to date someone who was hopelessly socially inept, just because I wouldn't have to worry quite so much about what she would think. I'm very insecure. In some things I push myself way too hard to be the absolute best, like art, or I feel like a complete failure. In most things, I opt out because I'm too scared of failing. I don't really talk to people anymore. I mostly type. I have time to think this way, and if I mess up I can just hit the 'remove from circle' button and hide from the failure.

Inside, I think I'm passionate. I hope I am. But I can't let that come out; if what I show is fake, neutral, and cold,  I don't have to worry about what people think.
Rennn Rennn 18-21, M 10 Responses Jun 11, 2011

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you're starved for attention , I know that . don't bother posting to me any more kid

I was clearly not being serious in my posts to you...

Totally ID with being extremely insecure. In my case I've found that I simply took a long time to grow up, because I've been growing up without copying my parents and others so it's been a much harder and longer process. I hope you will contiue to FEEL BETTER, and realize that feeling "bad" doesn't do you or anyone else any good.

i feel the same .

I can completely relate to this! and I think it's so cute that you're worried/or were worried of how people perceive you. But the truth is this is your life and you should just act and speak however you're feeling like acting/speaking and don't care what others think. because you're living life for yourself and no on else. If they don't like you, who cares. If they can't accept you for the person you are or understand who you are as a person they don't need or deserve to be in your life anyways. Be true to yourself and try to live life freely and openly.

Find someone that loves you for who you are. If they can't, then they don't deserve you.

Be gentle on yourself, you have the right to fail; after all, we only have one life, we should make the most of what we have, including our abilities. You seem to be a clever young man.

I TOTALLY UNDERSTAND YOU!!!!!!!! I HAVE'NT MET ANYONE ELSE LIKE ME- TILL NOW!!!!!!!! I AM EXACTLY THE SAME!! I WILL BE YOU SUPPORT IF YOU WOULD LIKE, AND I WOULD BE LUCKY TO HAVE AN ONLINE FRIEND LIKE YOU!! HONOURED IN FACT!! IRT IS SO VERY HARD TO JUST STEP OUT AND DO THINGS, ESPECIALLY NEW ONE'S! I LIVE AT HOME WITH MY PARENTS DUE TO AN ONGOING ILLNESS, AND I FIND THAT IF YOU ACHEIVE SOMETHING ONCE, JUST KEEP ON GOING! PEOPLE SAY THAT LIFE ITSELF IS A RISK, BUT I JUST TAKE ONE DAY AT A TIME, AND I DO GO BACK, BUT ALWAYS STRIVE TO GO FORWARD, BUT NEVER EVER PUSH YOURSELF TO THE POINT OF STRESSING YOURSELF OUT, JUST STOP, AND TRY AGAIN LATER, OR ANOTHER DAY. I AM THERE FOR YOU!!<br />
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HUGS AND MUCH COMFORT, suzanne. XX

I don't smile about memories. It sadly doesn't work that way. There are moments from when I was four years old that still make me wince and fill me with regret. I can't let failure happen again or I'll never be able to forget it.

You don't have any reason to be insecure that I can see. You're very, very intelligent, and it'd be sad to see you not get out there and be around people and have a good time. What I've found is, as long as you show that you're having a good time, people will just go with the flow, especially in dancing:) But remember, you're only human, failure is going to happen sometimes. It's life, just learn from your mistakes and keep on truckin. <br />
Everyone fails sometimes, not that you should settle for failing, but don't go into overdrive and kill yourself being a perfectionist. That's no fun. <br />
Make memories that you're gonna want to look back on and smile about. :)

Insecurity is a tough thing too live with, take my word on this, i am almost 24 and i still have a hard time speaking too any one in either a social gathering or even with friends. i clam up have a panic attack and i just cant seem too find the words. you are not alone on this.