Been married 10 years and so lonely, it's a bummer. He was so crazy about me the year before we married, then he lost all interest and became depressed and shut-down soon after our marriage. I've just learned to get used to having no affection, no validation, no kind words said to me for a decade now. He turns me down for intimacy and just wants to be left alone on his computer all the time. I'm sad and just keep wishing for one day when he'll get out of his depression and want to just at least be my friend again. I never talk about my marital struggles with my friends, so I try to keep the truth hidden away in a box where I don't have to look at it unless I let myself.