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Is It Possible To Be Too Passionate?

I feel so much! I feel happiness, sadness, grief, love, etc. very intensely.  I do everything with so much enthusiasm and energy.  I dream big.  And even when I'm dreaming simple it's always so vivid.  How can I describe this other than I feel the moment.  If I'm walking on the beach I feel the breeze, the smell of the ocean, I hear the waves, I see the sun glistening in the water. I am one with the moment.  And it make me feel good.  I feel alive.

I put love into everything I do.  I am curious.  I am adventurous. (However, I know my limits.)  I want to live life to the fullest.  I want to experience as much as I can.   I appreciate art, culture, history, music, food and beauty!  I am sensual.  
 
Yet, I feel like an outsider.  I feel that I should be less emotional.  That I should tone down.  My own husband doesn't understand my dreams or my passions.  He thinks I am fanciful.  So I try to tone it down.  I try to suppress my feelings.  I feel so alone.  How can he not understand me?  I suppress, suppress and suppress until I feel like I'm suffocating.  I am dying inside because I need to unleash my passion.  I need to fly.... To live.  To love.  To hate.  To be angry.  Is it wrong?  

lagatta lagatta 41-45, F 7 Responses Nov 14, 2012

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I'm sorry to tell this to you, but anyone can be changed. If your husband loves you, he will react well to you wish to change him. Changing is not a bad thing. Loving someone as they are is BS. Is it better to live with someone you don't love to work on it and fall in love again? Falling in and out of love is mechanical. Emotions, passions, desires, dreams can be injected in and out of one's system. If he doesn't understand you, understand him first, then conquer him. He will be happier. You will be happier.

You said it all so true. Women never stop dreaming. There was a stage in my life that I heard myself saying " I need romance! " And it's not all about sex either, it's about passion. Whoo Hoo!!

I want to live by having love in everything , exactly as you did mention in first half .

And i always feel there are two world one which i see with open eyes and other which see when i keep my eyes closed , If i am not allowed to keep my dreams on with open eyes i keep them on passionately with closed eyes but i do keep them burning !

Nothing is wrong with any of that. The moment is all we have and without it we are nothing. The only problem with feeling this way is that the person next to you is not you. To be loved can also feel like a burden sometimes. Keep living and if they dont mind you doing that then its all good.
You are not alone

Passion and depth of thought are all that gives life purpose. Cherish this, knowing there cannot be too much..., as long as no one gets hurt. On the other hand, difficulty in relationships is proportional to any mis-match in this regard. Loneliness, naive optimism and animal compulsions frequently lead us to relationships in which we later feel stifled or ashamed and again lonely, because we expect either too much or too little from the other person. Then we end up here on the internet looking for kindred spirits who can appreciate more of who we are. But don't fret. Life is still a lot more comfortable than it was for most of our ancestors! Welcome. :)

Very good points. Perhaps my life is too comfortable. lol Maybe I'm bored. lol Thank you for your reply! :)

I feel too much too, and I also get lost in the moment. When I'm in the moment; everything disappears for a little while. don't change; this is who you are, embrace it :-)

Thanks Lena!

I don't think it's possible to be too passionate. The love of life is a fantastic gift. I wouldn't try to tone it down or keep it hidden. Release it, be invigorated, and live every moment how you wish to live it. Living isn't living if you aren't doing it to the best of your ability, and living life how you wish to.

Thanks Reece. You are always such an awesome support! :)