Suspicious Of Her Boyfriend...

My friend has this boyfriend. For the most part, they seem happy, but I can't bring myself to fully trust him. Why? My ex-girlfriend cheated on me with him. If he didn't respect the boundries of me and my relationship, why should I believe that he would respect the boundries of his relationship with her? So far he hasn't done anything to hurt her(that I know of)but I can't shake this feeling of suspicion. To make things worse, I'm the only one among my friends that has this feeling. Am I just paranoid? She's my friend, so of course I respect her decision, and I want her to be happy, but I just can't bring myself to trust him. I can't even bring myself to say anything about it to her because if I'm wrong, I might inadvertently ruin their relationship. I'm not sure what do. I just needed to get this off my chest.

mistaXbarreto mistaXbarreto
18-21, M
1 Response Mar 3, 2010

I think it's normal you feel this way; I know I would if I were in your shoes... This is the guy your ex cheated on you with. He can't be that great of a guy if he was with someone who was already taken. Now he's with your best friend who I bet you're really close to and care very deeply for, how else are you supposed to react? If I were you I'd tell my friend how I'm feeling and make it clear that it's just a bad feeling you have and nothing more. Let your friend know you care about her by telling her your fears, but don't push too hard. I know you don't want to see her get hurt, but she has to make her own decisions and deal with whatever happens. The only thing you can do is be there for her when she needs you. <br />
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PS. You're a good friend.