Right now I'm glad mom said yes about taking the babies for a sleepover. I didn't know how much longer I could keep a smile on my face for them. When I called mom to see if she would do it I thought id just sit here and have a good pout and cry.

But here I am alone and its so quiet I can hear the refrigerator down the hall running. I knew I shouldn't but I did anyways. I messaged James asking when he will be home and weather he was ready to calmly discuss things. I'm just really ready for things to go back to our normal.

I don't like pushing things and I don't like when arguments between us go on longer than a day.

While I waiting for him to reply I thought id make us some Brownies to snack on while we sat down and talk.

His reply was " stop being annoying sage" what happened to being call darling, lil mama, babe or bee?

Yeah I'm angry

I'm upset

I'm tired


And a lot of things are going through my mind. Dark thoughts are creeping in. And I'm letting it. For once I want all of it to take over like I use to let. I can't hold all of this in anymore. I'm only kidding myself in thinking I could.

If he was standing here I would scream and shout at him all night. Its my turn to act like the child. Talk about being annoying . He will wish he never came back home or sent that text.

Is my ranting done? Maybe maybe not I just might have more to say.
badgirlbee badgirlbee
22-25, F
8 Responses Mar 23, 2015

Tell him you're sorry, you truly didn't mean to be annoying, but you've made arrangements for some kid-free quiet time and made some brownies and you only messaged him because you wanted to let him know what your thoughts were and that you would appreciate it and likely be much less "annoying" if he would make more of an effort to communicate with you. Remind him that you can't read his mind so if he doesn't talk to you you really have no way of knowing how to (or evein if you should) proceed with him.
If he can't handle that, then you're wasting your time on a man-baby who is either unable or unwilling to put the required effort into having a functional, healthy relationship with anyone.

The best thing you can do is be mature. Break the ice first with one word, "Truce?"

It will calm him down immediately. Then tell him you're sorry for raising your voice, but you only did it in frustration because he raised his voice to you.

If he speaks listen. When he stops, just say,"Let's not do that again, OK?." Then give him a kiss (at minimum).

This will work, always. If it doesn't, you have s much larger problem.

Best wishes.

Maybe you could write him a heartfelt letter. Then no one can get defensive and a fight won't interrupt you being able to express yourself. Plus he gets time to digest it and read it on his time. You both win.

The best thing you can do is ignore him and learn your own worth. You are worth more than that! He will treat you as badly as you accept yourself to be treated.

Hi Lil Bee...I'm sorry u are having to deal with this. As u told me before, try to get him to sit down and have a talk with u and tryd to talk in a calm manner, tell him ur both adults, u need to act like it and respect one another, and I guess the I love u madly isn't working huh...love and hugs sweety

My queen...
I've been here many times before....

I've read all the stuff you typed between mama and you...

All I can really add....is .. He obviously loves you..
And you love him...

Discuss with him.... In a quiet place... What is happening in your head...your life...everything
..
Give him your perspective on things...
Then.. Listen to his...
And understand each other....

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

Markie i tried. The whole reason he's mader is because i raised my voice back at him after he did it to me. But i only told him to to calm down. I don't want the babies hearing us this loud. And he knowsit.

I know...
Message him...
Tell him you are sorry...
You love him...
And you need him in your life..
He is proud .. Like you...
Never of u want to back down...
Like a pair of cats in an alleyway...
Hehe Joke)

Just tell him not to upset you again...else he WILL feel your rath....hahahaa

I'm not messaging him again. I'm annoying...

Ok. . You know what is best at the mo..

My father in law always told me....
Never goes to sleep on a argument....it festers overnight...and all sorts of things metamorphosis...
Best get it cleared up ...
Only what I was told....
:)
Blows kisses....💋😘💨

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try being calm and talking after relaxing a bit, he should open up and talk. I know if my wife is upset about something and starts ranting, it just shuts down the conversation. I never raise my voice at her and will walk away for a while until she calms down and can think straight and have a productive conversation

that's true, and that's not always going to happen, but you just do the best you can

I am sorry you are having a hard time... I don't have any answers but if you ever want a mans perspective (which you probably don't) you can ask me, vent at me, ask me why the hell men do what they do... whatever...

Thanks