Life is full of endings and new beginnings . At every turn there is something that challenges us , is the new , formidable , or simply the family . What for some is an insurmountable mountain for others is a challenge to overcome. What becomes grim for some, for other remains lit . Optimists see the path ahead , the pessimists are so busy looking back who can not see the solution right before them . If we are holding the rope that pulls us back we will not have a free hand to grab the rope that pulls us forward.