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There was a blues festival in my town this week.

My daughter posted all the dates for the concerts on our refrigerator door just to make sure we wouldn´t miss any of the shows.

She is 12.  She loves blues, jazz and classical music.  Of course, she loves pop and modern songs but these seem to be her favorites.  She plays them at night before she goes to sleep and listens to them on Sunday mornings.  I love that about her and I like to take her to different cultural activities so that she can learn about diversity and know more about the world around her.

Yesterday was the last concert. A jam session. We both were looking forward to it. The other shows had been awesome. However, yesterday was one of those days when I didn´t feel at ease with the world. The energy that I´d had in the previous days was gone and  I didn´t feel like doing anything or talking to anybody, the couple of calls I made had  left me feeling disappointed and sad and thinking I will never get this right and I found it hard to move on from there all day.
As I said , my energy comes and goes. When it is on I manage to do things, to complete tasks that have been ignored for days, to plan for the days ahead and to dream a little. I don´t go manic and do extraordinary things. I simply clean what hasn´t been cleaned  around the house and organize what hasn´t been organized in weeks. That´s all , but it makes me feel so good, and so accomplished and it gives me the feeling that if this lasted a little longer I ´d finally be able to make it and be as happy and successful as I have always wanted. When it is gone however, it is as if everthing stops. Whatever plan I made seems like an insurmountable feat, things are pointless and the dreams quickly melt into nothing.

I was really looking forward to go to the concert. I love the music and I was looking forward to get out of the house for a little bit. So I made myself get ready and we got there on time. The jam session was awesome , the musicians were amazing and all the time I was thinking why on earth do I still feel so bad ? It seems to me this never leaves me, no matter what I do or where I go it is always there bringing me down and throwing a dark cloud over my head.

And I hate it.

underconstruction underconstruction 41-45, F 15 Responses Oct 1, 2011

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i'am very sorry to hear that hope you feel better

Thanks for your comment. Yes, it is a daily struggle. Somedays everthing seems so pointless but that is when we really have to put up a fight and do not let it win.<br />
My best wishes,<br />

That is awesome you made it out. I struggle so hard to get up and go to make things somewhat normal for my kids.

true love is evident in what you give! you went!

Thank you all for your comments and support.

Depression is an odd animal. You can read any number of studies that indicate it is due to either genetics or environment or both. But here is the bottom line: if you have it, who gives a damn whether it is genetic or environmental? The important thing is to get it treated and to modify our lifestyle if necessary, and to change how we think so we can enjoy life and enjoy our loved ones.<br />
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Good for you going to the concert despite how you were feeling. It is all too easy to let the depression overtake our lives. Don't give up.

I can only repeat what most have said here did it, got out and went.<br />
Still tough that you have to deal with this.

No, Lilt. The energy comes and goes with no previous warnings. I , of course, have been in situations where it is reasonable to understand my low moods, but this constant changes for no apparent reason, I cannot explain.

I bet I would have. There is one here tonight I've been thinking of going to. I should get out too.

Keep us posted. There was a mandolin player last night that was fantastic.

You nailed it, UC. Do you think there are certain "triggers" that bring it on?

I actually thought about you, Scoobs, during the concert. I imagined you would have loved it, too.<br />
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((((((( Hugs )))))))))

I'm with metalgirl. You got out and did it! That's wonderful my friend. Its so much easier to give up sometimes and sit in the dark. *big hugs* :-)

you still got out and went to the concert, that is the important thing. you have to just keep foghting the depression. i know its hard, i suffer from it myself. hope you have a good day.

Best wishes

But you went to the concert and made your daughters day!